Other schooling options for grades 11 and 12?

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Other schooling options for grades 11 and 12?
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Mon, 05-09-2011 - 9:52pm

I can't believe I have to think about this, but my 10th grade daughter hates school. She has gone from being interested, engaged and curious to being completed burned out, ground down and absolutely sick of it. She hates all the testing, the busy work, the pressure to live up to what is expected of her. Yes, she is in therapy, no, she's not on drugs (but on meds for depression),

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Sat, 05-14-2011 - 3:28pm
The GC at my daughters school told us the same thing when we went to the GIEP meeting.My dd will be a sophmore next year and Gab wanted to take reg Alg 2 next year as opposed to honors alg 2,and they said that was not recommend since colleges like the honors course better.Math really is not AGbby's strong suit and moving at a faster pace really isn't doing her much good.She does have a B+ in honors geometry this year,but her friends in reg geometry have high A's since the teacher explains stuff in way more detail.Thye said we could pay a tutor to help her understand honors level geometry better,but seriously if she could take a reg class and uncerstand it whya a tutor.There were times this year when she had a C+.I know for a fact that she will NEVER do anything with math,because she hates math so not sure why the math has to be honors.The other classes are honors foe next year and she is fine with that.I just think a lot of the honors math teachrs in our district are of the assumtion that the kids will figure out the math on their own and to be honest,math isn't Gab's strong suit evem though sh test ok on it When she took the PSAT she only scored in the 50th perctie on the math part,although she was compared to sophmoes In the verbal part she scored cosiderably higher.

 

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Sat, 05-14-2011 - 5:44pm
It sounds like depression may be clouding her mind a little too,but I am sure you know that.I hear you on the testing and the busy work does exist in the honors classes,not all of them but still...Does your state have the cyper school option?Do you think your dd may like Ap courses better.Are there any bullying issues that you might not be aware of?Just throwing some stuff out there.If she is sef motivated you may be able to go the xyber school route.That woud never work for us,since my dd really isn't all that self motivated,or interested in learning.There are times when she feels burned out too.Gab goes to a school where parents what their kids to do well,but for the most part,they are not looking for their kids to go to the IVIES.Your dd sound like she is really bright if she has A's in honors course.My dd makes mostly high B's in them.Do you think she may just need a break form school.Summer will be here soon.I would discourage her from quiting school,because it sounds like she has tremendous potienal.

 

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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 7:09pm

I'm cracking up at the advice you got about not doing a jr year abroad. I got the same advice, but did it anyway. Went to France and loved it. I applied to law school and got in,

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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 7:18pm

There aren't any bullying issues with her (our son is a different story, though!). She's well liked, gets invited to lots of social things, and I really like and respect her friends. But I do think there is a lot of nasty competition and jealousy in the honors classes. It's just part of the deal.

She did have a great weekend at the writers' conference she attended. She said it was the first time she felt like she was in a classroom with people that were like her. She also felt like she got some clarity on what type of school she would like, so maybe there's hope for her yet....school doesn't end until June 23rd, though...ugh!

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 8:07am

We had this experience with my eldest. She hated the atmosphere at school because the dynamic was one of grade consciousness rather than learning.

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 6:44pm

That grade consciousness thing is one of the most pervasive evils in American education, whether public or private. Even the counselors buy into it.

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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 12:07am

I am sorry to hear that Abigail is so unhappy.

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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 10:06am

You've gotten lots of good advice and support already.

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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 11:40am
My sister, 18 years younger than me, had similar reaction to high school at that age. And, I must say, just as stupid counselors. She started taking classes at the local community college which helped a lot. She hated dealing with teachers who treat all kids like babies, students who act like babies, and meaningless work done for the sake of doing work. Having gone to the same high school, I know that my sister was TOTALLY correct, and not just acting "uppity" or some such. Teens this age are capable of so much more than what society asks of them. Which I think results in the depression, drug use and sex that many get involved in.

There are lots of options out there, most of which have been mentioned. My recommendation is to do what excites her. If she wants to work at the museum, build around that. See if she can take some college classes and/or homeschool her around it. Homeschooling does not need to take the hours and hours that regular school and homework take, and if she is getting out, giving back to the community and happy, it is not "removing" her from social opportunities, it is increasing them.

Here is a link to a free ebook on 37 ways to prepare for college: http://www.homeschoolfreebie.wholesomechildhood.com/ You may have to subscribe to get it, but they do have cool stuff. Colleges like students who have given back to the community, who focus on something they love. Taking this time away from traditional school is not something that they will ding her on, she just needs to explain why and what she did instead.

You are a great parent for even considering the other options for her - don't let anyone put you down or tell you otherwise! Being interested in learning is the goal - what she is doing now is squashing it, not helping.
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Tue, 05-24-2011 - 6:16pm

Hi Ashmama,