Other schooling options for grades 11 and 12?

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Other schooling options for grades 11 and 12?
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Mon, 05-09-2011 - 9:52pm

I can't believe I have to think about this, but my 10th grade daughter hates school. She has gone from being interested, engaged and curious to being completed burned out, ground down and absolutely sick of it. She hates all the testing, the busy work, the pressure to live up to what is expected of her. Yes, she is in therapy, no, she's not on drugs (but on meds for depression),

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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 10:26pm
This is my first time chatting so I hope I'm answering correctly. Your daughter sounds very smart, possibly smarter than some of her teachers..I can only tellyou that I had a similar problem with my daughter. She was sitting around and too much texting, computing stc. I got into Horsebackriding, she needed a physical work ethic not just a mental work ethic. I found that she began to help around the house more and seems happier. Nothing like having to haul buckets of water, groom, pick hooves, and sweat while riding, that will make you appreciate air conditioning and the muscles you develop. Shop around you might find that its not as expensive as you think.. But, it dosen't have to be Horses try Sav A Pet or some other outdoor physical activity. Animals just put a loving responsible spin on the activity. Maybe this is a simple answer but I hope it helps. Ps Physical activity helps with depression.
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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 4:37pm

Robin, the only therapeutic high school I know of is the Arlington School, which is associated with Mclean Hospital, a highly-regarded mental hospital in the Boston area.

http://www.mclean.harvard.edu/patient/child/as.php

We actually looked into this for our 14 yo son, who also struggles with depression and anxiety, has some characteristics of Asperger's, and is gifted.

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Tue, 05-24-2011 - 6:16pm

Hi Ashmama,

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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 11:40am
My sister, 18 years younger than me, had similar reaction to high school at that age. And, I must say, just as stupid counselors. She started taking classes at the local community college which helped a lot. She hated dealing with teachers who treat all kids like babies, students who act like babies, and meaningless work done for the sake of doing work. Having gone to the same high school, I know that my sister was TOTALLY correct, and not just acting "uppity" or some such. Teens this age are capable of so much more than what society asks of them. Which I think results in the depression, drug use and sex that many get involved in.

There are lots of options out there, most of which have been mentioned. My recommendation is to do what excites her. If she wants to work at the museum, build around that. See if she can take some college classes and/or homeschool her around it. Homeschooling does not need to take the hours and hours that regular school and homework take, and if she is getting out, giving back to the community and happy, it is not "removing" her from social opportunities, it is increasing them.

Here is a link to a free ebook on 37 ways to prepare for college: http://www.homeschoolfreebie.wholesomechildhood.com/ You may have to subscribe to get it, but they do have cool stuff. Colleges like students who have given back to the community, who focus on something they love. Taking this time away from traditional school is not something that they will ding her on, she just needs to explain why and what she did instead.

You are a great parent for even considering the other options for her - don't let anyone put you down or tell you otherwise! Being interested in learning is the goal - what she is doing now is squashing it, not helping.
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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 10:06am

You've gotten lots of good advice and support already.

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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 12:07am

I am sorry to hear that Abigail is so unhappy.

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 6:44pm

That grade consciousness thing is one of the most pervasive evils in American education, whether public or private. Even the counselors buy into it.

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 8:07am

We had this experience with my eldest. She hated the atmosphere at school because the dynamic was one of grade consciousness rather than learning.

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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 7:18pm

There aren't any bullying issues with her (our son is a different story, though!). She's well liked, gets invited to lots of social things, and I really like and respect her friends. But I do think there is a lot of nasty competition and jealousy in the honors classes. It's just part of the deal.

She did have a great weekend at the writers' conference she attended. She said it was the first time she felt like she was in a classroom with people that were like her. She also felt like she got some clarity on what type of school she would like, so maybe there's hope for her yet....school doesn't end until June 23rd, though...ugh!

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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 7:09pm

I'm cracking up at the advice you got about not doing a jr year abroad. I got the same advice, but did it anyway. Went to France and loved it. I applied to law school and got in,

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