She graduates on Saturday (gulp!)

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She graduates on Saturday (gulp!)
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Tue, 06-04-2013 - 8:05am

We hosted a grad party for about 100 people in our backyard on Saturday, then went to the Senior Tea (where the kids and parents have a chance to stand up and thank someone publicly--lots of tears!) on Sunday. Tomorrow, she turns 18. Thursday is Class Day (DD, as salutatorian, gives a speech) and prom (found a date at last after breaking up with her boyfriend), and Saturday is graduation. On July 1, that first whopping tuition payment is due (they do give plenty of warning so you can sell off your assets, pets, younger children, etc.)  and on August 23rd, we drop her off for college orientation.

I'm having trouble believing how quickly the time has passed.

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Thu, 06-06-2013 - 10:40am

Congratulations to Abigail on being salutatorian!  Senior Tea sounds like a lovely tradition.  Sounds like lots of <sniff sniff> going on in your house, as in mine.

Monday night was Senior Awards night - thankfully, just the academic and service awards, not sports - with 425 graduating students, doing sports too would have made the night 4 hours long instead of 2!  Tuesday was Senior Day, which is held at a camp in our town, and they got their yearbooks.

Last night was her last orchestra concert.  She played a solo piece for cello, accompanied by her friend the harpist and (very quietly) the rest of the orchestra.  I can't remember the last time I was so nervous - much more nervous than she was!  DD is very modest and quiet, so seeing her out in front and showing hundreds of people what she can do was one of the proudest moments of my life.

Tomorrow night is prom.  She's going with two of her friends, as none of them have dates.  Sunday is her final youth symphony concert - another sniff sniff!  Monday will be her last day of school, but graduation isn't until June 20. 

She's already started training for her summer job at (another) camp in our town (there are a few of them).  Many of her friends work there.  She'll be in the arts camp, reporting to one of her besties. :) 

She does have one other thing planned for the summer.  Her private teacher has been bugging her for a couple of years to do a recital.  She is finally going to do one in July.  She's invited two of her friends to do a Haydn trio with her to finish the performance, and I suggested that she make it a recital of "DD and friends" and invite each of her friends to perform a piece as well (one plays violin, one plays flute).  She's quite excited about it.

And...she can register for her freshman classes on Monday!  Ash, thanks for reminding me about that whopping big payment - not! 

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Wed, 06-05-2013 - 8:08pm

I do think the whole "meaningful work" thing is a big part of this generation. No generation wanted to have a crappy job, of course, but most of us did in our teens because it was money and it was expected of us. But I think kids today expect to find their jobs fulfilling even if they are low-paying.

Will is good with technology and has only applied for tech support jobs, but there are plenty of kids a few years older who have more experience, so this is unlikely to happen. My only requirement is that he not spend the entire summer in the basement playing League of Legends.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 06-05-2013 - 2:27pm

Jordyn has been lucky and had jobs handed to her, at least the cheer gym one, the owner was working with the H/S team on stunting and they wanted her on their competitive team and I told them she had to have a paying job, we couldn't afford for her not to have a job, and we really couldn't afford the team either.  They gave her the job and covered all her team related expenses.  The NCA one you had to be in the top of certain groups at camps and she was Top All American 2 years in a row, so they asked her to apply for the job.  She had to do a decently legnthy application process and training, and DH calls it a "filler, go no where" job, but she gains a lot of experience and makes a lot of connections out of it and while its not great money, she could make more money working full time if she could find a full time job, I am just glad its basically a guarenteed job every summer if she wants it type of thing. 

Love my daughter to death, but she doesn't always have the initiative to do something she doesn't want to do...  So finding a job that she doesn't like or doesn't see a reason for, isn't going to happen.  My DH has offered her several times money to do paperwork and front office stuff for his business and she refuses to as its not something she's interested in doing, and no amount of money will change that, hoping she'll get better as the years go on, or she may be unemployed or under employed coming out of college with an art history degree since no amount of talking can convince her it may not be the best degree plan to go into...

Good luck to Will, something I've learned lately, its not always about how hard you work putting in applications, somethings its simply about the connections you have and networking you do.

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Wed, 06-05-2013 - 2:06pm

Jordyn sounds like she actually has a fun job, not the usual cashier or ice cream scooping stuff. Abigail has managed to cobble together a combination of paid (babysitting, giving piano lessons) and unpaid (intern at a Christian organization serving the homeless) work. The paid stuff won't add up to much, but I do think it will be rewarding for her.

Poor Will, now 16, has applied for a few things but hasn't heard back, so he may need to hire himself out as a lawn mower or something!

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 06-05-2013 - 9:46am

ashmama wrote:
<p>Really? You want your DD to have a role model who asks to borrow your running shorts because she can't be troubled to put hers thru the wash? And who sits happily chatting while you unload the dishwasher? &lt;&lt;G&gt;&gt; I feel like this is the summer to correct my parenting deficits before I inflict her on her roommate!</p>

LOL!  I have been thinking this same thing the last several months, you are not alone, mine does the same stuff!!  I just have to cross my fingers that what I know I did teach her somehow kicks in and she goes into survival mode at college.  Though the fact that they have someone that does all their team laundry doesn't help me teach her responsibility much...

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Wed, 06-05-2013 - 9:44am

ashmama wrote:
<p>Congratulations to your HS graduate! How is your DD spending her summer? She has a lot of time to earn some money, but I know jobs for teens are hard to come by.</p>

I think this one was for me.  Jordyn has been working for a cheerleading and dance gym for 2 years now, this is her last full week there.  They have "open" practices for anyone who wants to attend all summer long and told her that whenever she is home or in town and is available to come on in and work the practices and they will pay her.  They never know how many kids will show up for the open practices and so they always need spotters and coaches there.  She will also go into the gym to continue working on her skills all summer for her team in the fall. 

Sunday she starts her job with the National Cheerleading Association.  She will travel around the state all summer long working cheerleading camps, she's very excited about it.  Right now on her schedule she's got 7 camps she's working, ranging from 2 days to 5 days each in legnth.  She's home most weekends, at least for Friday night and Saturday to be able to still go out with friends and her BF for the summer.  Its also nice because its a national job, and if she opts to stay in Oregon next summer to take classes, she can transfer to the Oregon area camps and work those all summer long.

Does your DD have a job for the summer?  I do know a few other kids that are having issues finding a job for the summer.

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Tue, 06-04-2013 - 7:47pm

Lots of tears this week that I wasn't expecting. Your turn is coming! Enjoy your last year with your D at home!

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Tue, 06-04-2013 - 7:45pm

Really? You want your DD to have a role model who asks to borrow your running shorts because she can't be troubled to put hers thru the wash? And who sits happily chatting while you unload the dishwasher? <<G>> I feel like this is the summer to correct my parenting deficits before I inflict her on her roommate!

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Tue, 06-04-2013 - 7:41pm

Congratulations to your HS graduate! How is your DD spending her summer? She has a lot of time to earn some money, but I know jobs for teens are hard to come by.

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Tue, 06-04-2013 - 12:37pm

Congratulations!!  You must be so proud and happy--salutatorian, wow!  Enjoy every minute and take lots of pictures because it does go by in a split second.   It seems that we were just celebrating our second daughter's high school graduation and all of a sudden, presto and she's just graduated from college.

I think your dd will love Wellesley.   (I don't know if my youngest can get in but I've added it to her list.  I'd love her to have role models like your daughter.)

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