The waiting is over!

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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 5:07pm

This was college admissions letters week, and am I ever glad it is over! 

The final count:  accepted at both safety schools, rejected from both Ivy League schools, waitlisted at one stretch, admitted to one stretch, and admitted to all four "fit" schools.  She got a full scholarship to one safety, a surprise merit scholarship to one "fit," and admission to the honors program and guaranteed housing for 4 years at another "fit."  Her #1 choice was the LAST to notify her, so it's been a nail-biter of a week!  She'll be going to New York University in the fall.

Ash and anyone else waiting to hear - how are your kids feeling now?

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Mon, 04-08-2013 - 2:59pm
I don't know all the schools she applied to, she was wait listed for Carnegie Mellon (one of her top 3 schools) and Rice (was on the fence about going there), accepted to University of Texas which was actually an automatic because she is in the top 7% of her class and the one she is getting major scholarships offers for, I know she specifically was looking and would like to go to Georgia Tech and I think she was applying to MIT where her father attended. I don't know when she sent her applications in, I can't imagine it would have been too late as she knows what she wants to major in and knowing her parents and her, she was on the ball about getting applications out. ODD said she didn't know all the colleges she applied to but those were the ones she knew of for sure.
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Mon, 04-08-2013 - 5:06pm

That's strange.  MIT and Georgia Tech posted their decisions in early-mid March.  Maybe she doesn't realize that she has to go to the university's online portal to check?  DD got two 4 acceptances by snail mail, one notification by email, and the rest she had to log on to the site to get the decision.

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Mon, 04-08-2013 - 5:21pm
Interesting, maybe she doesn't know that. I'll mention it to ODD tonight just in case. I know i kept asking ODD if she had gotten an email about her financial aid decision letter from Oregon as I knew several others had gotten theirs via email from their schools. She finally checked on things to find out that Oregon does their financial aid award letters snail mail and we won't hear anything likely until early May. I am glad we weren't making a decision on colleges based solely on financial aid.
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Thu, 04-11-2013 - 5:18pm
Ashmama, I didn't want to hear your DD was rejected from Stanford! Our DD really loved the school and it's high on the list (probably because they are the one campus so far that would allow her to interview specifically for the theatre directing program... I think she really just likes the idea of putting together a pitch lol.) During the tour, the guide said the one thing all Stanford students have in common is they have no idea how they got in. It really does seem like a mystery. We know a few kids that have gotten in over the years and, while all good candidates, not all top candidates. What can you do really? Just find more likely and safety schools
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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 10:09am
That's a very interesting comment by the tour guide! ODD has an old gymnastics teammate from Michigan, she was very good friends with her while we lived up there, that is a freshman at Stanford this year and on their sideline cheer squad. I've been meaning to email her mom and find out how they did the cross country move of her stuff for college, I know she flew, but I am wondering how kids get all their stuff to college that is so far away from their homes.
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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 11:47am
They ship it! At least that is what my friends did with their kids. Kids take suitcases with essentials and then mom ships the rest. Of course, they always have more to send home than they did to come out. If the college doesn't have a storage program, kids often go in together for a storage unit over the summer. They have some storage places that will pick it all up and deliver months later wherever you say.
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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 11:50am

You just never know.   If you are dealing with money, celebrity, recruited athletes, or certain preferred categories, there's a rhyme and reason.  When you get beyond that, it's a matter of chance.  These days, Stanford seems to prefer STEM candidates who have demonstrated evidence of entrepreneurship and only a very small number of incoming students express an interest in English or History.

I think it's a great advantage that your dd has such a strong background in theater and that she can interview directly with the theater directing program.  I can't imagine that there are too many kids who have this sort of specialized experience over such a span of years.   Just be sure to look carefully at the greater atmosphere of the school.  My oldest considered Johns Hopkins very seriously because of their extremely strong Writing Seminars major.  When she visited, she found that what she called the preprofessional atmosphere and prevalence of future doctors on campus made the vibe of the school unpleasant.  I can't say that this was the right reaction or the right choice for her but it is important to know this stuff going in.

I think I've mentioned before how much I really loathe collegeconfidential?  I find myself in an ongoing battle with the "prestige hounds" whose life mission seems to be defending the status quo and the "elite school" decisionmaking.   I've looked to mahopac's and ashmana's  dds all year as models for how to shape this process.  These are both truly exceptional kids who take on challenges with eagerness and intelligence.  I'd love to have my youngest at any school these girls choose to attend.  When I read the drivel on that site suggesting there's always a "reason" for the decisions and failing truly to acknowledge the randomness of the decisions, I get angry.  Maybe it's easier for me to express this anger because I am not in the thick of it right now?  I don't know.  I guess it's my bad for picking up the site in the first place knowing what I was about to find. :P 

 

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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 1:40pm
I had partially assumed they shipped it, but isn't that extremely expensive?? I know they won't need a whole lot in their dorm rooms with how small they are, but what about the kid like mine who can't go without her bookcase full of books? Does she just need to learn to deal without them? I had already told her it may just be easier to buy the bulk of what she needed up there for her dorm room. That's probably a whole other post or one to sneak over onto the college kids board and ask about.
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Sat, 04-13-2013 - 11:06am
Yes, it is expensive. I know that a lot is purchased there or purchased online with free shipping and sent to the college directly. The books can be sent media but they'll still be pricey. I'd buy her a kindle stocked with her favorites and just send the hard copies she can't live without.
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Mon, 04-15-2013 - 10:09am

I can't stand College Confidential either.  "Chance me!" - as if it makes a difference at a college like Harvard where nearly everyone is qualified but still less than 6% of the applicants will get in!  I saw the site when my oldest was looking at colleges in 2009 and just went - ugh.  Who cares how elite the school is - the only thing that matters is whether it's right for YOU.  DD & I didn't even look at it during her decision making process (though to be fair, her grades & SAT scores were more consistent than DS's, and therefore her choices were clearer).

I agree also that some universities have a vibe that can make them a poor choice for students who don't fit the "popular" majors.  I switched colleges after my first year because I switched to a liberal arts major and the university I was attending was heavily geared toward science, engineering & health majors, and really no one cared about English.  Even at the small LAC that DS goes to, art is the #1 major and the art students are sooooooo dramatic about all the work they have to do. . . even though everyone else is working hard too.

Visiting the college can make a big difference and help students realize what's important to them.  DD never thought of herself as an activist, but after visiting one LAC where most of the kids seemed to be rather lazy and spending more time smoking pot than working, and another where the students seemed energetic, passionate and involved in life, she realized that she wants to be with other students who are committed to DOING things and making a difference, and not sitting around being self-indulgent spoiled college students.