The waiting is over!

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The waiting is over!
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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 5:07pm

This was college admissions letters week, and am I ever glad it is over! 

The final count:  accepted at both safety schools, rejected from both Ivy League schools, waitlisted at one stretch, admitted to one stretch, and admitted to all four "fit" schools.  She got a full scholarship to one safety, a surprise merit scholarship to one "fit," and admission to the honors program and guaranteed housing for 4 years at another "fit."  Her #1 choice was the LAST to notify her, so it's been a nail-biter of a week!  She'll be going to New York University in the fall.

Ash and anyone else waiting to hear - how are your kids feeling now?

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 04-17-2013 - 2:00pm

Honestly, you never know. It's always worth a try. I have a friend whose daughter didn't do well on the SAT and has always required a tutor for math, yet got into schools that some of the stellar kids from her class got rejected from. You know at the very least that your daughter is intelligent and motivated enough to do really well at Stanford (or anywhere else she wants to go), whether or not the Ad Comm thinks she fits whatever slot they need to fill the year she applies.

And Mahopac is right about the randomness of the process and the craziness of the College Confidential website. Take everything you read there with a grain of salt and assume that half the people are lying or exaggerating their accomplishments. Otherwise, you'll begin to wonder if your child will get in anywhere or wish you'd pushed her to take that 11th year of karate-jazz-voodoo, and that's just crazy.

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Wed, 04-17-2013 - 1:44pm

A lot of kids don't buy their dorm supplies (sheets, shampoo, etc.) until they get to college, then take a trip to Target or Sears for that stuff. That's what I did way back in the 80s, before online shipping, when I left CA to go to school in MA. Now I think I'd just look for people with free shipping (Land's End and LL Bean both sell sheets and rugs). If you're shipping stuff you already own, pack the books in box by themselves and ship them book rate. They'll take forever, but it's way cheaper than shipping first class.

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Tue, 04-16-2013 - 3:11pm
Good to know the arts supplement may help but then, the last kid we knew that was accepted had 2 starring Broadway credits to her name. DD's theatre resume is impressive but not "that" special lol. At least DD knows Stanford is a long shot for even the most perfect of students. She sees it as a "throw-a-way" application... a chance to put together a directing pitch and have someone listen. It's not the only school she loved and she has a far more realistic chance with the others. I'm not eager to race the clock but I have to admit, it would be really nice to have this part of the journey over.
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Tue, 04-16-2013 - 12:17pm

One thing that may really help your DD is having a highly specific interest like theatre. The kids we know who got in both had something like that. The application really has to show what's "special. DD did not do an arts supplement, which we were told would have helped, but it was her decision (she was really burned out at the time).  So it wasn't meant to be, and she's over her disappointment.

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Mon, 04-15-2013 - 12:13pm
Ya, she has a Kindle, we'll have to stock that a bit and she may just have to deal without her favorites freshman year and then take what she wants with her when she drives her car out there for sophomore year. I am thinking more that all of her art supplies will be the real main thing we will have the expense of shipping. While she can get stuff there, as an artist and art major, she already has a vast supply of art supplies that are not cheap and having to re-buy all of it is not really an option.
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Mon, 04-15-2013 - 10:09am

I can't stand College Confidential either.  "Chance me!" - as if it makes a difference at a college like Harvard where nearly everyone is qualified but still less than 6% of the applicants will get in!  I saw the site when my oldest was looking at colleges in 2009 and just went - ugh.  Who cares how elite the school is - the only thing that matters is whether it's right for YOU.  DD & I didn't even look at it during her decision making process (though to be fair, her grades & SAT scores were more consistent than DS's, and therefore her choices were clearer).

I agree also that some universities have a vibe that can make them a poor choice for students who don't fit the "popular" majors.  I switched colleges after my first year because I switched to a liberal arts major and the university I was attending was heavily geared toward science, engineering & health majors, and really no one cared about English.  Even at the small LAC that DS goes to, art is the #1 major and the art students are sooooooo dramatic about all the work they have to do. . . even though everyone else is working hard too.

Visiting the college can make a big difference and help students realize what's important to them.  DD never thought of herself as an activist, but after visiting one LAC where most of the kids seemed to be rather lazy and spending more time smoking pot than working, and another where the students seemed energetic, passionate and involved in life, she realized that she wants to be with other students who are committed to DOING things and making a difference, and not sitting around being self-indulgent spoiled college students.

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Sat, 04-13-2013 - 11:06am
Yes, it is expensive. I know that a lot is purchased there or purchased online with free shipping and sent to the college directly. The books can be sent media but they'll still be pricey. I'd buy her a kindle stocked with her favorites and just send the hard copies she can't live without.
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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 04-12-2013 - 1:40pm
I had partially assumed they shipped it, but isn't that extremely expensive?? I know they won't need a whole lot in their dorm rooms with how small they are, but what about the kid like mine who can't go without her bookcase full of books? Does she just need to learn to deal without them? I had already told her it may just be easier to buy the bulk of what she needed up there for her dorm room. That's probably a whole other post or one to sneak over onto the college kids board and ask about.
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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 11:50am

You just never know.   If you are dealing with money, celebrity, recruited athletes, or certain preferred categories, there's a rhyme and reason.  When you get beyond that, it's a matter of chance.  These days, Stanford seems to prefer STEM candidates who have demonstrated evidence of entrepreneurship and only a very small number of incoming students express an interest in English or History.

I think it's a great advantage that your dd has such a strong background in theater and that she can interview directly with the theater directing program.  I can't imagine that there are too many kids who have this sort of specialized experience over such a span of years.   Just be sure to look carefully at the greater atmosphere of the school.  My oldest considered Johns Hopkins very seriously because of their extremely strong Writing Seminars major.  When she visited, she found that what she called the preprofessional atmosphere and prevalence of future doctors on campus made the vibe of the school unpleasant.  I can't say that this was the right reaction or the right choice for her but it is important to know this stuff going in.

I think I've mentioned before how much I really loathe collegeconfidential?  I find myself in an ongoing battle with the "prestige hounds" whose life mission seems to be defending the status quo and the "elite school" decisionmaking.   I've looked to mahopac's and ashmana's  dds all year as models for how to shape this process.  These are both truly exceptional kids who take on challenges with eagerness and intelligence.  I'd love to have my youngest at any school these girls choose to attend.  When I read the drivel on that site suggesting there's always a "reason" for the decisions and failing truly to acknowledge the randomness of the decisions, I get angry.  Maybe it's easier for me to express this anger because I am not in the thick of it right now?  I don't know.  I guess it's my bad for picking up the site in the first place knowing what I was about to find. :P 

 

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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 11:47am
They ship it! At least that is what my friends did with their kids. Kids take suitcases with essentials and then mom ships the rest. Of course, they always have more to send home than they did to come out. If the college doesn't have a storage program, kids often go in together for a storage unit over the summer. They have some storage places that will pick it all up and deliver months later wherever you say.

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