While I'm at it...

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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 12:36pm

I also hate high school sports.  I know this is heresy and there are those on other boards who would jump down my throat for saying that.   DD has started a sport this year and is enjoying it--that's great.  BUT really, is there any reason that this $@#%$^ sport has to practice 3 hours/day  6 days/week?   I honestly don't think  that much practice time is necessary for anyone every day and I think it's just a macho thing.  It makes it flat out impossible for dd to continue with other activities that she's really enjoyed, some of which she's excelled at, and it intereferes with religious practice on weekends for EVERYONE.  I have to bite my tongue because she's enjoying this but I am not.   I have no idea how she will manage this in conjunction with academic demands and other commitments.   It just seems really unreasonable and the time commitment excessive for a jv beginning team.

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 2:57pm
6 days a week? And the coach is getting paid for weekends? Because that is amazing, as no school I know of does that!

And yes, this is too much. Maybe start before school starts, but really? But then, that is why we do a non-competitive soccer group - so that I don't have to take kids to three different fields each Saturday and spend my whole time running around.
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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 3:10pm
Are they even allowed to practice on weekends for a school sanctioned sport? You may want to look into that if its through the school. I do hear you, though my problem is more about the booster club related to it more than anything, I will be so glad when she's done this year and I don't ever have to deal with it again! I think that is the one good thing about the way some of the school districts down here do it, in order to do PE credit, they have most of the sports as a class period and so they actually do most of their practicing for an hour before school and into the 1st block of the day each day,or last thing at the end of the day and afterschool, so it doesn't take as much of a committment outside of school other than competitions/games, and the kids can still have time for homework, work, clubs, etc.
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 9:27am
I have been there and I am with you 100%. The only difference is for my son it was marching band. Practice was Monday through Thursday 2:30 PM until at least 5 PM. Then on Friday practice went from 2:30 until the game, with a short break for dinner. That meant about 8 hours of band on Friday. Then starting in mid September and going through the beginning of November there were 1 to 2 competitions each weekend. And you couldn't go to a competition without several hours of practice before you got on the bus. So, depending on how far away the competitions were we are talking another 8 to 20 hours on Saturday and Sunday. Then there were the parades. We couldn't go anywhere for 4 years on either Thanksgiving or Memorial Day because the band always had mandatory parades. I have no family in town and that meant no thanksgiving with family unless they were willing to come to us. My daughter wants to join marching band next year and I am dreading it. It really takes over the kid's life and supersedes any parental traditions you may value. Still, I can't deny that it is great for the kids to be involved in something. I just wish it were a little less demanding of their time. Robin
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 9:32am
Oh, my post on marching band was obviously for a school sponsored activity. Now that I read everyone else's responses I realize that our situation is unique. And I only listed the demands on the kid. The boosters expect an incredible amount out of the parents as well. I chaperoned one year and I found myself volunteering 20 to 30 hours a week. It was unbelievable. Robin
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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 9:36am
Ahh, that makes more sense. Sorry, I thought it was a school sponsored sport, but yes, of course school teams do have competitions and games on the weekends. Yes, unfortunately usually regional type teams expect much more time committment, I assume they have the attitude that if you are doing it, you are very "gung ho" about it and expect to be putting your all into it and not necessarily concentrating on other activities.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 8:50pm
My kids are in school sports and they are 6 days a week, for 3 hours. I don't mind, and they love it, so it is all good. Dd did lacrosse and tennis at school, and ds is in football now and plans to do lax. They did clubs, sports, club sports outside of school, worked, and get good grades in tough courses. I found that when dd was busier, she did better, and got a great scholarship so I guess it was worth it!!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 10:24am

Well, I don't blame you.  That is a ridiculous time commitment.

DD hasn't been able to be on either the volleyball or tennis teams in HS because it would mean giving up everything else she enjoys.  Kids shouldn't have to make that kind of trade-off when they're not going to be trying for athletic scholarships.

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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 10:25am

Another voice saying, "yep, hate it!"  With my dds it was show choir in HS (they were #1 in the nation 2 out of 3 years for dd19) and for ds12 it is Cross Country.

I think a lot depends on the academic load as well. At ds's middle school, the gifted program can easily take hours of work every night and more on the weekend. The "reg-ed" kids, as the teachers call them, often have NO homework. It irks me to no end. These kids are supposed to have more appropriate work, not MORE work. Ds also does a lot of extracurriculars and it only works because he's very organized, he ends up having no social life during school, and we all work together (and I don't mean that in a "isn't this wonderful" kind of way... I mean that in a "geez, it takes an entire family to get this kid through 7th grade" kind of way).

It's not like we're doing his homework for him, but it's that Friday I got a variety of books for his research project at the library, Sunday I stayed home from ds10's baseball game to help him with citations (he had questions), I shopped over the weekend for jeans without him (none of them fit, so now I take them back) and I do end up going to every CC meet, so perhaps I can pull him early after 7th grade runs, and the meet only takes 2-2.5 hours instead of 3.5 hours if he waits and takes the bus. It is JUST TOO MUCH!  But, at the same time, I'm so happy he's exercising and staying fit so I don't want to lose that (he's not been my athletic one).

I just don't understand why every sport, every class, every activity, has to be SO MUCH. Honestly, adults would never put up with the schedule a lot of these kids have. :smileysad:

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Mon, 09-24-2012 - 7:57pm

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 09-24-2012 - 8:01pm

Well, today for example.  Ds has football from 2:30 to 6:15.  Came home ate dinner and is bringing his homework to Boy Scouts.  They do miss some club meetings now and then, that is OK.  Tomorrow, he has German club before school.  Jazz band will start in the winter.  He plays in regular band, but opted out of marching  band this year.  We are always busy.  Dd would not finish homework until after midnight usually.  She was OK with it, and with her tough classes, sports, music, scouts, clubs and more, she scored a nice scholarship.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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