While I'm at it...

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While I'm at it...
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 12:36pm

I also hate high school sports.  I know this is heresy and there are those on other boards who would jump down my throat for saying that.   DD has started a sport this year and is enjoying it--that's great.  BUT really, is there any reason that this $@#%$^ sport has to practice 3 hours/day  6 days/week?   I honestly don't think  that much practice time is necessary for anyone every day and I think it's just a macho thing.  It makes it flat out impossible for dd to continue with other activities that she's really enjoyed, some of which she's excelled at, and it intereferes with religious practice on weekends for EVERYONE.  I have to bite my tongue because she's enjoying this but I am not.   I have no idea how she will manage this in conjunction with academic demands and other commitments.   It just seems really unreasonable and the time commitment excessive for a jv beginning team.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 11:17pm
Why not just play club sports? My kids have.play club hockey, it is less intense.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 7:50pm
Having two athletes having gone through high school sports, that seems to be par for the course.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 07-24-1997
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 4:48pm

Eh - no need to go away.

Kids should do what feels right for them.  If they happen to have the goal of wanting to go to a particular highly selective university, and they're *interested* in the things it takes to get into that university, super.  Some kids are wired that way.  Others aren't.  That doesn't mean they can't find a great university for them - if they are the kind of kid who belongs in college at all (and not all do).

I have a daughter who LOVES to be busy with "productive" things and is always trying to figure out how to do more.  I have two sons who need a lot more "creative downtime" - drawing and crafts for one, Legos and movies for the other.  The "right" college is out there for each of them.

And getting back to your original point - I don't think ANY after-school activity should require 3 hours a day, six days a week! 

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sat, 09-29-2012 - 1:09pm

Having volunteered with Girl Scouts, church and now Boy Scouts, I tell the kids there is a difference between going to the only school that will take you and choosing which school you want to attend.  My kids are benchwarmers, usually, not first string, they are not first chair in band either,  but dd still was courted by many schools.  Her good friend also wrote an essay and got a full ride to a nice school (it was on dd's short list), but to be fair, it was the only BIG scholarship offered.  Dd looked at only div 3 schools, not athletic scholarships are offered at all, but they still come courting and with other offers!!  WHy limit yourself!!

 

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 9:07pm
Yes, there are schools willing to take your money, but figure most state schools run you a minimum of 25K a year without scholarships. Private 32K to 55K a year, but they give more scholarships that public. So, unless you have something to not ony get in but have that kind of cash in the bank, your student better have something to offer a school if you want scholarship money. They want a "rounded" student. Even 25 years ago, they were pushing the "rounded" thing.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 4:37pm
I didn't pick my dd's school, she did. Not is she going to a large school. I think you better get information about this school acceptances now. There are more people applying to colleges than ever before. My dd applied to 4 schools and was accepted to all four with scholarship offers. They were in the mid-west, all small liberal arts schools. high placement rates, etc... The one said that they had 7000 applicants for 700 openings. These are not hoity toity schools, so you may have to a bit of homework on the realities of getting into college now!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 09-28-2012 - 2:27pm

If it does not work for your family, then so be it.  I never wanted to be that busy when I was a kid.  My kids do like it.  I don't interfere since they are great students.  If they had issues, then we would have to revisit what they do.  My dd who is in college now was so busy in grammar, Jr High and High school, but when she had the best grades when she busiest.  She is at school on a scholarship that pays most her tuition, so I guess it did pay off!!  On that note, have you spoken to any college entrance counselors?  They do not want the athlete or the brain.  They want the brainy athlete, who was in the school play and volunteered on any free time.  Having gone through this recently, it really is tough for these kids to get into college. 

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 09-27-2012 - 2:54pm
He does it before and after since dh is leader, and goes in early and leaves late. He also skipped the dodgeball game. The boys often play at the end about 15 minutes of dodgeball, he skipped it to do homework. He does not do it during the meeting portion.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 09-27-2012 - 2:53pm
He does the meeting part, but they usually go play dodge ball for 15 minutes, don't ask this troop is crazy for the game, if he has homework, he skips that and does his homework. Also, my hubby is leader, and is there early and late, so he does his homework then.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Tue, 09-25-2012 - 12:55pm

We call our DD "Hermione" though it's at least half because she acts like "an insufferable little know-it-all," to quote Professor Snape. :smileywink:  The other half is because she really does work that hard and care that much and manages to get more done than anyone should be able to do with the time they have.  (Yes...I am proud of her, of course...though she can forget that the rest of the family has things to do too - it's all gotten better since she got her own car to drive...)

Seriously, I completely agree with you.  In the weeks leading up to the school musical, the pit band rehearses 2-3 hours a day, 4 days a week; the week before the play, they go for 5 hours Mon-Wed, then put on the show Thu-Sat.  I cannot imagine keeping that kind of schedule for an entire sports season. 

There is next to no overlap between sports and the extracurricular musical groups; the kids simply can't be at a sports meet and also participate in symphony, chamber orchestra, jazz band, show choir, and what have you.