Would you drink with your teen?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2008
Would you drink with your teen?
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Tue, 03-01-2011 - 9:53am

Is offering a casual drink of wine or beer with family meals a good way to demystify alcohol for your teen? iVillage's Kelly Wallace struggles with that idea in her recent article Would You Drink With Your Kids?

We know that parents of tweens and teens often have to face the sticky problems of alcohol and peer pressure and we'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic! Have you tried this approach? How did it work for you? Or do you think this is just asking for trouble?

Note: we're also looking for any families who have allowed their teens to drink beer or wine as part of a family meal and would be willing to be interviewed for a possible Today Show segment. If interested, please contact us at ivcommunity@mail.ivillage.com.

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Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Sat, 03-26-2011 - 10:11pm
I don't see a problem with a celebratory glass at a holiday or special occatsion or with Sunday dinner. My kids get communion with wine at church. I tell my kids that Christ's first miracle was turning water into wine, not grape juice, pop or anything else. He did not say to party, but it was ata wedding, a celebration! My dd tried many types of wine in Europe and really liked some Now, I will not get a kegger for the kids, but a glass, I have no issues.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 1:35pm

It's for this very reason (Passover, Shabat, Holy Communion, etc.)

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2006
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 9:15am

Yay.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2007
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 6:43am
4 glasses wow,unless they were really small I would pass out if I had 4 glasses of wine.Either that or I would have a wicked headache.I really don't think offering a small glass of wine at dinner is the same as drinking with your kids.Wine is also part of Communion in the Catholic church.And in Europe they let kids have wine with dinner.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2006
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 10:18pm
I have offered my 17 yo son a glass of wine on Passover at the sedar, but all he wants is grape juice. I am not sure that is really the same since drinking wine is part of the religious celebration on Passover. In fact we are supposed to drink 4 glasses of wine but I certainly would not allow my son to do that. (and my husband and I don't come anywhere close to drinking that much wine either.)
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2007
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 8:42pm
I've given my 14 year old a very tiny glass of wine on Christmas EVe and she hated it.I don't think I would give her a beer though or a wine cooler.I would let her taste mine,but the idea of her having a whole beer or even a normal sized glass of wine does not seem right.A sip or two yes but not anymore than that.