Dad lashes out at DD's Facebook post

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Dad lashes out at DD's Facebook post
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Fri, 02-10-2012 - 9:59am

This is going viral this morning, so you may have already seen it. If not, it's pretty incredible. Not saying I would have handled it in the same way, but there's a little piece of me that is proud of this guy. (Maybe not the gun part at the end.)

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Fri, 02-10-2012 - 12:24pm
Too funny! The dad is right on. I think I would have sold the laptop on Craig's List before I shot it, but I understand where he is coming from. Sometimes though, destruction does the body and mind good.

Someday, the girl will understand where her dad is coming from, but I bet she sees this at school or a friend's house long before she gets her own laptop.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 10:29pm
I've seen this before! What a flipping nut job and I hope the cops came and rapped him upside the head a few times! As long as the chores get done, who cares if the kid whines!?!?! I am glad this mentally unstable cowchip kicker does not live by me!! I whine about chores at times! He is whining about his chore of raising a teenager, and throwing a public tantrum! I hope they through him in the local jail for a night or twp for firing that gun in an area where there were people, there were cars driving by in the background the whole time!! Shame on him!!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Sat, 02-18-2012 - 7:16pm

I worry about the dad and daughter being able to find a way forward to reconnect after this.

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Mon, 02-20-2012 - 11:09am
You should look at the post in the elementary section on the passive parenting. This dad told his daughter if she did this again, he would shoot the laptop. That, months before, was indeed said in anger without much thought.

I am glad he had the follow through. If an adult wrote this about work, wouldn't you expect them to get fired? I think she learned some good lessons and will come out of this with a better attitude toward her father (Yes, he means what he says) and will have a better work ethic on top of it all.

Children are PART of a family. They are not the REASON for family. They need to pull their part too as they are able. This girl is able.

No, the police don't need to be involved, but they did get involved, and according to him, they told him he did the right thing.

And he lived in an unincorporated area, and it is not against the law to fire a gun there. It is the same where I live. Besides, he was pretty safe with what he was doing, firing into the ground, not on the fence where a shot could travel for a long way.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 02-22-2012 - 2:03pm
Sorry, he had cars on a road in the background, I know there are regulations on firing a gun in close proximity to other people. No way that that was fired legally and he should have all his weapons taken from him!! He is a danger to that community!! I grew up in the sticks, I there are still regulations!!! I also was on the rifle team and dh has several handguns, so is not like I am in the dark on this!!
Children are part of the family! They are the reason people set up society the way we have, to help families Take a basic anthropology class.
Not saying that his kid did not deserve a punishment, but I don't see his publicly airing his tantrum as any different than her offences. She is mirroring what she sees, a spoiled brat of a dad!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Sun, 02-26-2012 - 3:02pm
All I can say is, the laws are different in different parts of the country. I have a sheriff deputy who lives next door to me. We live in a small private road development. When the neighbors decide to fire their guns and someone complains to him he tells them that there is nothing against the law about it and no, no officers will come unless someone is hurt.

Now, when I lived back east, I would have agreed with you, and not understood that in different places there are different laws. Personally, I think he handled the gun in a safe manner - he was not shooting at a target that the bullet could go through and then hit someone behind it. He was shooting at the ground. To make it safer, it would have been better if he had gone to the gun range, true. But I suspect that everyone would have still been pissed off at him.

Publicly airing the laundry is a different issue. She did, so I guess he felt the best way to reach her would be to do the same. Especially since doing it privately did not apparently reach her the time before. I see it as him mirroring her - yes, he stooped down low to her level, but sometimes with kids that is what is needed to get through to them.

And the police did come and talk to him (and his daughter) and they did not find any grounds for arresting him. I am sure that they saw the video too.

I have taken basic anthropology. I know that it is my job to raise my children well, to be polite, to have good work ethics and to think for themselves. (As our society values adults who are polite, educated, and hard working.) And yes, kids are PART of the family, and as such they need to contribute to the family goals. If part of the family goal is to have a house that is not a mess, then the kids need to help with the cleaning. If the family goal is to have a milk farm then you can bet that the kids will need to be out there as they are developmentally able to help milk, clean stalls and feed the animals. But, it is not MY goal to make sure that my kids are happy every second and to cater to their every whim. By catering to their every whim then they will not be able to function as adults, and functional adults is my ultimate goal when it comes to my kids. Yes we will have fun times along the way, as well as learning and hard work. But I do them no favors by picking up after them all the time, not teaching them to wash dishes and the clothes, to keep the house clean. Those skills are a part of a healthy marriage, and a marriage will not last if one person feels entitled to just lay around while the other does all the work.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sun, 02-26-2012 - 4:38pm
I never said that children should not have chores, nor have did I say kids have to be happy all the time. I figure if my kids don't grumble about chores, they probably need more. I am not responsible for thier happiness. But, I still contend that this guy was a nut job. And, yes, my hubby and I own fire arms. I see him as whiney, childish ape with a gun.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!