Help! Need advice tonight PLEASE.

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Help! Need advice tonight PLEASE.
Wed, 06-05-2013 - 11:37pm

 Hi!  I think I may have posted here previously.  I don't know what to do.  My daughter has been hanging out with the same group all year.  She is in the 8th grade.  Recently a new girl joined them.  For whatever reason, my daughter doesn't care for her and shared that information with several others in the group.  Well, one of them told the new girl my daughter doesn't like her and the group has now turned on my daughter.  They are all mad at her and think she is judgemental and hateful.  I feel sorry for her but I can't say I'm surprised.  What did she expect? 

So, she has been crying all afternoon and said she would rather die than go to school tomorrow.  She doesn't want to face the group because she thinks they will be mean to her.  They probably will.  She has classes with many of them and it is going to be terrible for her.  She is begging to stay home tomorrow.  She is particularly distressed with the fact that she will have no one to eat lunch with.

Is there any reason to let her stay home tomorrow?  She created this, so this is her consequence, right?  She'll just have to face them Friday anyway.  She thinks that this might blow over some if she waits a day or so.  Ordinarily, I would say "no" but even if she deserves it, I hurt for her.  BTW, I told her to apologize and she has by text, but it hasn't helped much.  They are still mad.  They may not think she is sincere.  I don't really even know if kids these days appreciate apologies. 

I very much appreciate your advice.

Thank you.

C