How to Help Forgetful Son
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|Wed, 09-22-2010 - 4:10pm|
My son is in 7th grade this year. Here 6th grade is part of the elementary while 7th and 8th grade are in a wing at the high school building. So this is his first year with a different teacher each period, going to a locker for things for each class, sometimes having a different class on a certain day. He is out for cross country (this is the first year it's been available to him--I'll have a separate post on that after this one I think#, plays in the band, is in chorus, is in the talented and gifted program, very involved in Boy Scouts and is in the church youth group. He has 2 study halls a week. He's a very bright kid and has always worked hard in everything he does, giving it his best. He's conscientious and wants to do well.
The problem is how forgetful he is. He sometimes forgets to bring a book home, or forgets to go to his band lesson, forgets to turn in an assignment. He has a planner, as is required for all students. He uses it and writes down assignments. His band lesson is written in on the correct day and time. Yet he'll go to class and forget to open the planner until the end of class, as he writes down assignments, and then realizes he's missed the band lesson. He feels badly about forgetting things and is hard on himself for it. He comes home exhausted from cross country and then after dinner realizes he left something he needs for homework at school. It's not intentional; he's a worrier and then worries like crazy about the problem. He forget to put away his band music yesterday #leaving it on the floor in the bandroom, but didn't realize until he was home last night) so last night he was really worried about what was going to happen. He was almost asleep when he called out to me, in tears, and asked what would happen to him if the music was lost.
We've been dealing with this since he was in 2nd grade. He's a wonderful child and very bright and funny and loving; he just forgets. Part of it is being unobservant. I've had other parents ask me if my son knew anything more about some big thing that went on at school. My son never has any idea what I'm talking about if I ask. When he finishes his homework in class he's glued to a book and doesn't notice his surroundings. Sometimes he misses announcements because he's so involved in his books. I don't know how to help him.
Any suggestions? Thanks.