Need more advice please

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Need more advice please
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Thu, 09-12-2013 - 7:28pm

Geez, school barely started and I already have an issue with girl drama.  My DD is in the 9th grade and is on the dance team.  She began spending a lot of time with one of the dance team members girls.  As a result, the girl's mother and I set up a carpool.  Three weeks later, the two girls are not getting along at all. The other mother mentioned to me in passing that she noticed her daughter was making unnecessary comments to my daughter and thought they were kind of picking on each other.  Regardless of what caused this or whose fault it is, my daughter DOES NOT want to carpool with the girl anymore.  I like the carpool because the other mother takes the morning shift, but honestly, the tension in the car after school isn't pleasant.

What would you do?  As always, I appreciate the advice.

C

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Registered: 07-24-1997
Fri, 09-13-2013 - 10:07am

Yeah, that's the danger of carpooling - unfortunately.

I would take a break from carpooling.  It's convenient, but it's causing unnecessary additional stress.  Both girls are probably starting and ending the day stressed by having to be together.  That's just not healthy - plus it takes time to wind down from stress, so your DD is really not having a good afternoon even after she gets home.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Fri, 09-13-2013 - 12:15pm

Thank you so much.  I have done just that.  You are all like a security blanket.

C

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 09-13-2013 - 1:10pm
I agree, as convenient as it is for us parents, the fall out can definitely make it less desirable. Unfortunately that's the danger of being on a team together, the abundance of time together can take a toll on some kids and their friendships.
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