The "Talk"

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Registered: 02-03-2003
The "Talk"
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Mon, 02-24-2014 - 12:27am

My son is in 5th grade and will be starting middle school in the fall.  I understand in 5th grade the teachers talk to the girls about menstruation; however, do they talk to the boys about anything?  I was told by another parent that at our school the 5th grade teachers talk to the boys about "midnight ejaculation," and that if a parent doesn't wish for their son to partake, they may sign a waiver.  I don't feel this is the school's business to be explaining to my son about this.  Menstruation is a different issue so I understand that.  Have any of your son's teachers had this kind of talk with them?

Thanks,

Patti

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 02-24-2014 - 9:34am
normally in most schools now they start talking about health issues as early as 1st and 2nd grade. Topics like ejaculation, I am not sure about as I don't have a boy. I know at the schools we have attended there is always an email that goes out letting us know that you can review the health curriculum and if you have any concerns or want the child to opt out you can. You would want to contact your child's school to find out the curriculum and find out exactly when the portion that you are objecting to or concerned about is going to be taught so you know when he will be out of class and missing.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 02-24-2014 - 11:03am

I can't remember exactly what my son learned in middle school.  I do know that in 9th grade they have health and he was disappointed that there wasn't more sex talk.  I really do not understand the mindset of not wanting your school to educate your children about all aspects of health and sexuality and the human body is one aspect of health (they also teach about smoking, drugs, etc., nutrition).  Boys having ejaculations when they reach puberty is a normal part of growing up.  If girls are to learn about periods, then why shouldn't boys learn about the changes going through their bodies?  On and I doubt very much that boys & girls are taught separately any more.  Boys are taught about the female reproductive system and vice versa.  

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Registered: 02-03-2003
Thu, 02-27-2014 - 2:47am

Understand the mindset?  It's not about not wanting the school to educate my son about health and sexuality.  I don't feel he's ready.  He hasn't reached puberty...he's in 5th grade and still a child.  I guess I came to the wrong group.  I should've went to gradeschoolers.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 02-27-2014 - 8:46pm

Puberty in boys usually starts between ages 11.5 & 12 (accd. to about.com--pediatrics) but can start as early as 9.  Puberty is starting earlier nowadays but I know that I got my period when I was 10!  So you might think that health education is too early but I think it's better for kids to be prepared than to be surprised by changes in their body.  By the way, if you think that school shouldn't be teaching kids about health, I can tell you that it's better than the probably inaccurate information they are getting from other kids in the school yard.

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Registered: 05-07-2014
Wed, 05-07-2014 - 6:08pm

Our schools teach about puberty in 5th grade and they group the boys together and the girls together but the boys will watch the video on the girls and the boys puberty and the girls will watch the videos on the boys and the girls as well.   They teach a lot about personal hygiene and body hair.   The teachers say that the girls have lots of questions and their session runs long and the boys get outside to play as quickly as possible.  In 8th grade they do more sex ed and they teach the body parts in more detail.  In 9th grade, I believe they do STD's and contraception.  They show parents the materials in advance so you can decide to have them participate.  I looked at the materials and discussed with him beforehand. I got an age appropriate book.  The kids with older siblings know a lot and some parents give information very young, so they are most likely going to hear information at school especially in middle school whether you give it at home or not so probably better they all get the same information.