What letter grades do you punish for?

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What letter grades do you punish for?
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Wed, 03-27-2013 - 1:39pm

My oldest came home with mostly C's on his most recent report card. In the past, we've only punished for D's and F's but I'm really starting to think I shouldn't be letting him settle for C's. It's not as if he is studying for hours each night and still getting C's, the C's are mostly from him only putting the least amount of effort required for each assignment and test. He just doesn't seem to care/value school and good grades that much and I'm starting to lose hope that he'll ever care. He's in 7th grade right now and things are only going to get tougher, you know?

What report card grades do you guys punish for?

Lisa 

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Thu, 04-04-2013 - 6:30pm

Lisa, Just to let you know there are 2 of us turtles here, Turtleemom, me, and Turtletime.  You lumped us into one in your responses which is not big deal, but we are two different people.

For study skills my son (also 12, 7th grade) had to be taught how to search for important information in his readings, how to notetake and how to quiz himself.  There is an art to knowing what will be on tests and what to study and what, while interesting, is just extra info in the eyes of a teacher.  I buy the books he uses, so he highlights text and uses sticky tabs.  It works better for him than notetaking for most of his classes. For his online class, he does need to take written notes since there is no book. 

He's much better at it now than he was at the beginning of the year.  I sat with him through some of the online lectures and pointed out things that should be written down and slowly removed myself.   Same with the text.  I read the lessons too and we went over what he thought should be highlighted beforehand and helped steer him in the right direction.  He needed me involved guiding for about 2-4  weeks depending on the class, but by the end I was more looking over than actively helping.  He's not a kid to whom organization comes easily. He often gets caught up on the minute details rather than the larger picture.  Investing that time helped him develop the necessary skills to do it on his own.  

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Fri, 04-05-2013 - 5:41pm

<<Lisda, Just to let you know therare 2 of us turtles here, Turtleemom, me and Turtletime.  You lumped us into one in your responses which is not big deal, but we are two different people.>>

Ugh, SO sorry- it IS a big deal, I can't believe I did that! When I was replying, I was thinking "oh, turtleemom replied twice"...that's what I get for not looking at the screen names closely enough! EmbarassedEmbarassedEmbarassed

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Sat, 04-20-2013 - 12:55pm

Lisa, I think a lot of kids, especially boys, are really sensitive to the type of teacher they have. My son is the same way. If he doesn't like the teacher (or thinks the teacher doesn't like him), he just won't try very hard in that class. DD's boyfriend is the same way. He doesn't like their English teacher (who is know to be a very caring person, but a really tough grader), so he slacks off in that class, then complains about his grades.

We don't punish for bad grades, but we do tell DS that he can't get on the computer/x-box/smartphone until his homework for the day is done and legible to disinterested parties, such as his parents. (This prevents him from just scrawling any old answer just to get us off his back.)

We don't usually take away media altogether because gaming is an area where he feels really competent, and he doesn't have too many of those! He's not an athlete and is socially awkward, so gaming is really his main outlet for stress relief.

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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 9:08am

Ashmama- your son sounds JUST like mine!!! Does he play Minecraft? That is my son's latest gaming obsession. Smile

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Thu, 05-09-2013 - 7:39am

My son loves Minecraft, but his latest obsession is League of Legends. He and his gaming buddies all play this on Friday nights (each in his own house, of course, because why socialize in the same room when you can just use technology?). They actually set up a League booth at the school's culture fair, which was supposed to be representing different ethnicities and cultural traditions. But hey, I guess "geek" is an ethnicity, right?

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Thu, 05-09-2013 - 12:13pm

<< He and his gaming buddies all play this on Friday nights (each in his own house, of course, because why socialize in the same room when you can just use technology?)>>

Hahaha! Again, this sounds JUST like my son. He and his friends chat via a skype call while they play.

Lisa 


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