Appreciation Gifts - what's appropriate?

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Appreciation Gifts - what's appropriate?
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Mon, 12-06-2010 - 11:12am

We just got a solicitation from the school's PTO, asking for money to show appreciation for the music, art, Special Ed, Gifted program, and P.E. teachers, nurse, and librarian.

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Mon, 12-06-2010 - 11:25am

chose which extra staff means the most and then honor them in an appropriate way. It's ok to give a Barnes and Noble gc to the librarian, or a bag of store bought treats or coffee gc to the bus driver or something along those lines. Really, what the pto is saying is if you can send cash, we can combine it all together and make sure all that staff is recognized for the hard work they do.

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Mon, 12-06-2010 - 11:44am

Thank you!

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Mon, 12-06-2010 - 2:14pm

I would only do what you feel comfortable with

if you felt the way the PTO went about addressing the issue contact the president or other board member so they can make it better next time

Just my own thought I feel that with all the fundraisers that the kids do the least the PTG can do is provide special gifts to those who deserve it

Becky
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Mon, 12-06-2010 - 2:59pm

My girls are in middle and high school, so we don't do teacher gifts anymore (even if I spent $5/each I would be broke!). If you are offended by the way the memo is worded I would a) call someone and let them know that the memo was in poor taste and then b) do whatever YOU planned to do. If you want to give to the music, art, gym teachers etc then go ahead.

I always hated when I felt the school was forcing me to do something I didn't feel comfortable doing (and our elementary schools were great at deciding what parents SHOULD do without consulting the parents!).

Do what makes YOU comfortable. I definitely wouldn't allow the snotty tone of the memo go unaddressed though. Definitely not. I can guarantee if you're offended, so are other parents.

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Mon, 12-06-2010 - 5:14pm

Thanks, ladies.

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Tue, 12-07-2010 - 6:40am

I am a public school teacher and I mom. In all my years of teaching (19) I have never seen a PTO collection for Specialists. I have only seen for the homeroom teacher only. I think that is way above and beyond. I do give each of the Specialists in my kids' school something but that is my personal choice and do not feel obligated. I would just quietly ignore that request.

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Wed, 12-08-2010 - 2:46pm
I'd be a bit put off too by the wording. Our school posts teacher "wish lists" online, and the teachers usually put the items they'd like for the classroom on those lists. Maybe your school can consider doing something like this in the future.

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Wed, 12-08-2010 - 4:41pm

Our school doesn't normally do collections for the teachers, but the last couple of years, instead of doing a book or gift exchange at the class parties, the teachers have requested a small donation be sent in for the local food pantry.

~ Liz
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Thu, 12-09-2010 - 4:47pm
You don't have to break the bank to do gifts for the upper level teachers. IMHO, those teachers have a much harder job than the elementary teachers, so I always give them all something. It's the thought that counts and it's always been appreciated by the teachers. My kids have always gotten thank-you notes for some of the littlest things; some teachers have even called me!

This year I put together little bags of various flavors of Hershey's Kisses for 16 middle school teachers. I bought the candy on sale w/coupons (mfg + store) at Walgreens. Total cost to me was less than $10.
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Fri, 12-10-2010 - 2:09pm

I don't like the send cash thing either.

 

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