Holiday lists - what do you think?

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Holiday lists - what do you think?
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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 10:25am

So I'm just recently back and I apologize in advance if I missed a discussion like this and am being repetitive.


I see both sides

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 11:04am

I like the idea of the list and the spending limit. A few years ago, we did draw names for Christmas. It was just 4 couples drawing. My bil (at the time, divorced now) drew us and he had no idea what to get us. He ended up getting us a table top water fountain, which was cool, but it was heavy for him to ship here and it wasn't something we needed at all. There was dozens of things in our price range that we could have used and would have love to have had. But buying something so generic shows how little he knew about us. But we weren't any better. We drew another bil and his wife and got them a gift card for Olive Garden. We love Olive Garden and figured they would too. The one near us was really easy to get to, had it's own parking lot, never a super long wait time. The one near them (and we didn't know this at the time!) is downtown street parking, so you are definately gonna walk several blocks and pay to park, they always have a very long wait time, even for just 2 people you can wait better than 30 minutes and usually it's a

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 12:53pm
I haven't read all of the responses yet, but we draw names and set a limit on my side of the family and I don't feel obligated to stick to the list.

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 1:32pm

I think that as long as all involved understand that lists are suggestions not orders Christmas lists are great.

I do not buy for my extended family only my immediate one (and parents) We all make lists. I try to get my Dh and kids many of the things on their list but I also try to get them a few surprises.

I have a funny story about your mom's suggestion of everyone buying your own present. One year I bought my parents a meat slicer for Christmas. Christmas morning I open my DH and my present from them, a meat slicer. We joked later that we could have bought and wrapped our own presesnt and saved the shipping.




Edited 12/7/2009 1:38 pm ET by emptynester2009
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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 2:43pm

That is hilarious about the meat slicers!

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 3:34pm

"they have a habit of giving me something off of DH's list anyway)."


my xil's are similar. they buy what they think I want, and completely disregard my actual list, which means I get crap I can't use and can't return but still need to buy the things that were on my list in the first place because those were the things I actually needed. One year, I asked specifically for a drill. They got one for my now xh! Um was that just in my face or what! I asked for it for me, they got it for him (and I got lotions and gloves....) Boy, I was so pissed and it showed because I commented that oh, goody, he got a drill he won't use, would he like to trade me for the gloves. they acted all shocked that I actually wanted the drill for myself. They had no idea (and I guess they still don't) exactly how useless my xh is with tools. If it needed drilled, *I* did it!

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 4:54pm
We've tried in the past to cut out gift exchanges for the adults and just have gifts for the kids

--Jenn

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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 9:22am

We draw names.

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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 9:42am
I wonder if they are related...my DH is an accident waiting to happen with power tools.
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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 4:20pm

I like lists, so long as people understand that they are suggestions only.

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