Newbie--i've really enjoyed your posts

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Newbie--i've really enjoyed your posts
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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 9:00am
Hello! I'm Chaundra(31), SAHM to an 8yr old boy and 4yr old girl. Married 12 1/2 yrs. I've really enjoyed reading your posts and have found some good ideas. It's not easy making ends meet on one income. Seems like all we do is catch up! But, I wouldn't change a thing! My daughter starts 1/2 day preschool 4 days a week next month. So, I'm going to try and work at school some. That should help out. I just never could stand leaving them. I've tried before thinking we really needed the money, but something always worked out and I could stay home. The guilt kills me! So, home I'll be until they go to school full time. Even then I only want to work part time unless I can get on at school full time and be on their schedule. I have a lot to learn about being frugal. I know we could get by better if I was more frugal. So, I'm learning. I never pay full price for clothes. I've found really good clearance deals and yard sales are GREAT!! I love yard saling!! My problem is sticking to the budget when there is something I really want! Or if there is extra money, I think It has to be spent. I'm weak! My husband is going to take over the finances next month. I've begged forever for help, finally he has agreed. That makes me feel like a loser that I can't keep things together for us. I feel like I have let us down. Anyhow! Hopefully, things will get better. We really want to build a house withing the next few years. I know to do that we have to improve a lot of things about our finances. If I have someone else to tell me you have xxx amount to spend I do a lot better. I swear I feel like a child saying that!! I'll be lurking, looking for helpful ideas. I've already read so many! Thanks! Chaundra
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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 9:31am
Welcome to the board Chaundra! Sounds like you'll fit right in here. :)

I'm also a SAHM with 2 small kids. I know our finances would be much more comfortable if I got a job, too. But since we *can* make ends meet (even though it's tight), I just don't feel like it's worth it to leave my kids.

Don't feel bad about switching off giving your DH the role of managing the finances. I think it's really important for both spouses to have had a hand in paying the bills so that everyone is on the same page. Ya know?

Leslie

Leslie
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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 1:59pm
Welcome to the group Chaundra! Being aware and willing is half the battle! ;-)

~Jodi

SAHM to Justin (7), Kyle (4) & Alicia (2)

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Tue, 07-29-2003 - 7:15am
Welcome to the board Chaundra. You will find a lot of ideas on here to keep you on trck and when you stray just a little, you'll get the support you need to get back in the game.

I am a SAHM of 4. Being with my kids was very important to me. I gave aup a job that I loved. I had managed to move from receptionist to having my own office and had gotten 3 raises in 9 months based on job performance. But after 9/11, I realized that what was important to me was my kids. I felt like I hadn't seen them in a year. The daycare was raising them.

If being a sahm is what you want, you will find a way to make it work. I want to go back to work now that mine are in school full time. But my sis and I are fighting over that one. In our need to be home and still ake money, we started a little craft business. It's small, but it feeds our crafting urges and we make some money doing it. I am still undecided.

Good luck and stick around. I'm sure you'll have a lot to share. Don't worry about the situation with giving Dh control of the money. At least you know you have a problem and are willing to fix it.

Sharon (mom to ds Cort-9, ds Dallas-8, ds Cole-7, & dd Darbi-4)