Dh has "taken over" the bills.....

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Dh has "taken over" the bills.....
Sat, 06-11-2011 - 1:19am

Dh finally demanded to take over the bills.

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Registered: 10-05-2009
Sat, 06-11-2011 - 12:43pm
he needs to make paying off debt and saving for a future his new hobbies! I'm hoping this works out for you. When my xh got to finally manage the money, after the divorce and he was in his own house, he told me I must have been mismanaging the money all along because he always had money left over after paying bills and I never did. The difference is that he spent that money that was "left over" on things like big screen tv's (he seriously has one in every single room in his house!) and on eating out every day, sometimes a couple of times a day, and other random stuff. I saved the "left overs" because the other shoe always drops! I was paying extra on the mortgage every month, and putting money in savings to pay for the stuff that comes up in the future. then, one day, he called me crying, he has no money and can't pay his rent and he's not sure what to do. He had to borrowed money that month to pay his bills. Still, he continues to spend his money that way. He pays his minimum mortgage, and then spends hundreds in "extra" money every single month. He has no savings, no plan for his future. But he tells me all the time how I mismanage money because I don't have all this mad money to spend, I never have money for anything. But I saved my tax return, I didn't buy anything extra with it, it wasn't "extra" money. And it's been slowly paying my monthly bills this year. it will be gone this month, and not having that cushion makes me very anxious.

Long story, sorry, but my point is that hopefully, your dh will be able to see the long term, not just "extra" money.
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Registered: 08-01-2007
Tue, 06-14-2011 - 3:05am

My DH took over the bills about 15 years ago~ it lasted for about two weeks! Sure, it's easy to balance a budget if extra money comes in. But everyday life and bringing in the same income is not. Prices keep going

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Thu, 06-16-2011 - 7:58am
I hope it opens his eyes to what a hard job it can be budgeting everything. DH is not allowed to handle the bills, he is not frugal and knows it. We do need to have a sit down so I can show him how his "snacks" every time he takes the kids out adds up.