1st birthday party --help

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Registered: 03-26-2003
1st birthday party --help
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 12:06pm
I am a first time Mom and my son is turning 1 next month. I don't want to come across like a stick in the mud, but both I and my husband are not really looking forward to putting together this party thing. It's expected from our family, and of course, if we don't do the party thing we will look like bad people.

I wish I could selectively invite a few people and have a small party--end of story, but we have a large family with lots of small children. And the expectation of party themes, cake and ice cream and lots of food is quite overwhelming me. I have a small family and my husbands family is large and loud and after my son is with them for a period time he gets cranky and starts crying--because they are LOUD.

I don't want this to be the day from hell for my son, but I'm worried that he's going to be terrified having all these people constantly in his face. Does anyone have any thoughts or ideas as to what to do? Should I wait until he's older before we start the party thing?

Thanks,

Amber
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 4:30pm
Amber,

My pediatrician advised us to have a small first birthday for both our kids as most kids get overwhelmed at that age by a big party. Of course, for the same reasons as you stated, I didn't have that option. Thus, I had an outside party at our local park. It didn't cost a lot as I did it after lunch, but before dinner. (I think it was at 2pm for my daughter). I rented a park area that was covered for under $10.00 and picked the one closest to the play area closest to the smallest bathrooms. (Not the area near the baseball field). I got a big cake and icecream along with some chips and cheese doodles to go with juice, soda, and beer. The kids love to play on park playsets at that age, and because it was outside, it was fine if they yelled or cried. It was a great time. Hope this helps.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 12:09pm
Never mind, I accidently wrote to the wrong board. Please accept my apologies and delete my problem.

Thanks, Amber.