4 yo boy with possible adhd symptoms

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4 yo boy with possible adhd symptoms
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Wed, 10-28-2009 - 8:40pm

Hi ,


I'm new to this board. I have a 4 yo boy. This is his second year of preschool and his teacher has had some issues with him lately and I'm starting to wonder if it's a normal thing or if this could be signs of early adhd. At our next visit I plan to bring it up to his doc but for now I'm coming to this board and seeing what I can get from others.


First of all he's ALWAYS been an energetic child. From the time he could kick his legs or move his arms he's

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 10-28-2009 - 9:11pm

Hi, and welcome!


Honestly, he sounds like a normal energetic, and possibly gifted 4 yo boy. You are right, a few months can make a world of difference. I would enjoy him, and when he starts 1st or second grade, if he still has problems, explore it, if not, great!

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 9:28am

You've hit the nail on the head: it is VERY hard to tell the difference between ADHD & normal energetic at that age. Or, ADHD & other things...

So, here. If I could guarantee you that your kid was ADHD right now, what would you do? Bit young to medicate, especially since it doesn't sound like it is affecting him that much. So, all you'd do is go read some books about ADHD & behavioral modifications. That's actually a perfectly reasonable thing & you'll find that pretty much everything they recommend for ADHD kids works great on most non-ADHD kids, too--lots of positive reinforcement, behavioral reward systems, very clear rules, warnings about things about to change. Given what you're writing, it wouldn't surprise me if you were already doing some of this stuff.

Metrics: Well, at 4, mine couldn't do a 3 step instructions, most of the time: Clean up what you are working on, go wash your hands, and sit down at the table--that'd be a preschool one. I've also got an energetic kid who (as of today, 4th grade) isn't ADHD; it "feels" different, and while he can't always do 3-step directions either, you can tell a difference in what happens.

Finally, one of the requirements for an ADHD diagnosis is that you "see" the problem in more than one location--so, school AND home, school AND church. Sounds to me like you have an issue with one teacher, and not another, and not at home, and not at church.

Megan
Megan
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Registered: 09-27-2006
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 7:10pm
hi.. I am by no means an expert that's for sure.. but my dd has Adhd.. sometimes my dh thinks our almost 4 year old son has it but he is able to concentrate long periods of time while my dd with add cannot.. It sounds to me like your son is well ahead of his prek class and is getting bored..
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Registered: 02-14-2007
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 7:18pm

Based on your post - I don't see ADHD symptons - I see a kid that is most likely very gifted and is getting bored at pre-K and like my son was - got defient.

Denise

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Registered: 08-20-2008
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 9:48am

Hi Everyone.


Thanks for all of your responses. The tips and information that you shared helped me put things into perspective. After hearing from you guys I feel less self conscious about his behavior.

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:50am

Based on your post, I don't get the impression you're having major struggles with him at home? Our son also had issues in preschool and was kicked out of the first one he went to. However, his behavior was off-the-charts at home, too. He wasn't just having trouble sitting for circle time at school and being aggressive with other kids/no impulse control, he was running across furniture at home (literally bouncing off the walls), hitting me, extremely defiant and out of control.

When the teachers started bringing up concerns at age three, we weren't shocked at all. When we met with medical professionals for advice, the talk of ADHD was more a matter of finally putting the pieces together and figuring out once and for all what was really going on. It made sense.

If he's manageable at home and just getting mild reports of problems at school (you're not hearing threats of him being kicked out if there's no improvement), then it's not likely ADHD and may just be normal boy behavior. You can get help at four years old if it is ADHD, so if you start to feel like perhaps this is right, definitely get the ball rolling with medical professionals. They can help.

Good luck,
Michelle

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:56am

P.S. Just noticed your new post above. Star chart is a great tool. Kaiser recommended the 1-2-3 Magic book/DVD system when we started trying to correct our son's behavior. It didn't work for him (he needed medication for anything to work), but apparently this program gets good results in a lot of kids.

Michelle