ADHD in all 3 kids?
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|Fri, 11-13-2009 - 12:24pm|
My DH is very ADHD. From what I understand it is hereditary. He has 3 kids with two biomoms. One has traumatic brain injury and pretty much would be undiagnosable for ADHD due the variety of learning disabilities she has. She is actually doing ok since she has a complete IEP for just about everything.
The 14yo boy has been diagnosed with borderline ADHD. He was having violent outbursts in school several years ago. DH reduced his sugar intake and the violence passed. When that happened the diet thing went out the window. DSS is now failing a lot in school. He is bright but has no desire to apply himself and generally forgets to or doesn't want to do homework. He seems to have mild dyslexia which has not been diagnosed. He has an IEP for spelling, writing and penmanship. I think the struggles in school have caused him to be depressed. He doesn't care about anything anymore and his big goal in life seems to be to get on welfare when he's 18 so he can do nothing all day.
We have requested an appointment with his teachers and DH has decided that another eval is in order. He has finally decided that if a dr. says drugs would help he would be willing to consider it.
13yo girl was a drug baby. Her mother was an IV drug user while pregnant. she is reasonably compliant at home and at school. Her social skills are beginning to improve. Her personal hygiene is improving. She is pretty bright but seems to lose track of things. Not just things like chores and homework but even happy events slip her mind pretty regularly.
She needs to be repeatedly told what to do and how to do it. At school she wants to get good grades but often does poorly because she forgets assignments or doesn't remember or understand the instructions. I have seen her work for hours on a project to get it just right. The problem is, she is totally doing the wrong thing so she gets a poor grade because she didn't follow instructions.
She says that she has a lot of problems understanding what is being said in class and often says people use big words she doesn't understand. I figure a teacher who has been teaching a grade for years probably is speaking at that grade level. In fact, many of these teachers my younger daughter had and there was never a problem. Simple instruction often elude her.
My DH says that because she isn't hyper she can't be ADHD. In fact, her energy level is well below normal. I have never seen a child who can remain in one place zoned on the tv for 3 days straight. Even getting up to eat or going to the bathroom is a huge effort.
I think she is ADHD with impulse control problems along with inattentiveness. She's just not hyper. She makes unusually poor decisions that I think are not within the range of normal. Mostly because she doesn't think, very if it feels good do it type of thing.
I also believe my younger daughter, 17yo, is ADHD but very mild. Since I raised her from birth I always found ways to constructively channel her energy. Now she does sports and works out a lot. She has finally learned to sit still, although she fidgets a lot, so she doesn't get in trouble in class. She can rarely stay on one subject long but has found a system that works for her. She is also dyslexic and for the most part has found ways to deal with it so she has been able to make honor roll most of the time but does have struggles with certain things.
I have never had her tested. She has been able to reach young adulthood with little impact on her academics and behavior so I'm not too worried about it. There is no history of either ADHD or dyslexia in our families so I'm not sure where this came from but both seem pretty mild. She seems to be able to find her own solutions and continues to do so as new things are thrown her way. It just sometimes takes her a little more work to find her way of doing things but she does find it.
I think she is more hyper than anything else. She makes well thought out decisions and doesn't seem to have problems with her ability to sort out what she needs to pay attention to. Her mind and mouth run a million miles an hour and sometimes she's a bit scattered but not to such an extent that things don't get done.
So do all 3 of them sound like they may have ADHD? Should all 3 be tested? The two who are having problems? TIA