All the wrong decisions
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|Tue, 05-13-2003 - 11:05am|
My daughter is 4. Her daycare provider first told me there were issues with Maya when she was just under 2. As a concerned parent like the rest of you- I'm willing to do what ever is necessary to help her- research, doctors, etc. We went to the pediatrician- he said she was too young to diagnose. "She's just in her terrible 2's" We eventually had to take her out of the daycare she was in because of her hyperactivity and biting. Thought that an in-home center might be better because she would get more individual attention, and more room to "run off her energy". Impulsivity got the best of her, and we were asked to remove her from that situation. Next school- same deal, major problems with hitting, not being able to sit in circle time, not being able sit and eat. Went to a new pediatrician hoping for answers- nope, she's still too young to diagnose. Her preschool teachers suggested that we have her evaluated by ChildFind program at the public school. We've done that TWICE now, and the first time they said she was too young- the second time, after several class room evaluations and tests, they say that she most likely has ADHD, but that because she's not in school yet, she doesn't qualify for an IEP. Her "disability" isn't keeping her from learning.
To speed this along, we've had to move to Philadelphia for job reasons. Starting her in yet another school kept me awake at night for months. The week she started, I sat down with the administrators and pre K teachers to review with them ALL the paperwork I have on her. It's been 2 months, and last week in a teacher conference, they asked us to remove her from their school because she's a "hazard" to the school. (She walks off the playground without remebering to tell the teacher where she's going)
I HAVE HAD IT!!! SIX SCHOOLS AND SHE'S ONLY FOUR!!!!! ISN'T THIS DESCRIMINATION???
Called our new pediatrician this morning demanding she be tested again and diagnosed. No problem, they said...our first available appointment is the last week of October!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO UNTIL THEN??????????????????
Why is this so hard?? I've read a ton of books- she is a CLASSIC ADHD kid. ALL of her teachers have recognized this in her, both my husband and I do...yet we've gotten NO WHERE!! We have "issues" EVERY SINGLE DAY with her. I can't quit my job and keep her in the house for the rest of her life... It seems like no matter how much I read and learn, we can't get through the first steps of dealing with this!!!
Does anyone know of a good doctor or school in the Philadelphia area that can help??
Sorry so long.