Am I overreacting?

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Registered: 12-08-2005
Am I overreacting?
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Tue, 05-12-2009 - 3:39pm

My son will be three in July, and everything I have read about ADD/ADHD states that it can not really be diagnosed until they are of school age. But I just have that mom instinct at the moment, and DH and I are incredibly concerned. We have cut all sugar out of

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 5:14pm

Hi, and welcome!
I would speak to a Pediatrician, as it sounds like something is going on. It sounds like a Sensory issue more than ADHD however. He is still young though, and may outgrow it, some do.


A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 8:02pm

I agree with the CL about the firm limits and sticking to them.

Two things jumped out at me:

1. The sugar thing...sugar is a stimulant and the usual meds for ADHD are stimulants so theoretically, sugar should improve ADHD symptoms, not aggravate them (if your child even has ADHD).

2. The twenty minute tantrum. That's actually not an outrageous length of time for any toddler to have a tantrum. My DS is 12, and I'm happy when his "outbursts" last 20 minutes or less. When he was 2 and 3, they could go an hour or more...of screaming, kicking, head banging, retching, and you name it. I used to tell people who were "fortunate" to be witnessing this, "Just wait a few minutes, his head's going to start spinning around" LOL.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 2:26pm

OK, yes, you might not medicate a 3 yr old--but there are a lot of things that mimic ADHD where you CAN do things to help a 3 yr old, so I'd go talk to a Dr. about working on a diagnosis. You do NOT know what it'll turn out to be. The not wanting to be confined part--that sounds sensory to me, not ADHD (they are NOT exclusive, my ADHDer is a sensory bundle as well--though he loved his swing, and the excersaucer, proving that no 2 kids will be alike!).

Yelling/screaming fits at age 3: caused by what, can you tell? If he's ADHD...or really for lots of kids...transitions could always set my kid off. He needed warnings, multiple warnings, when he was going to have to stop doing something & start doing something else. Lots of stuff like that.

I'd also recommend the 1,2,3 magic stuff--I never read the book, but the whole counting to 3 & then a consequence thing held me together a lot of the time.

But DO go get an eval if you're worried. Or possibly also try the school system's eval process for that age group?

Megan
Megan
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Registered: 12-08-2005
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 3:10pm

Thanks so much everyone for your perspective and ideas. I hadn't even thought of the dynamic stimulants created...I was