Am I overreacting to the teachers?
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|Wed, 09-09-2009 - 12:50pm|
Just want to get some thoughts from BTDT parents. I'm having some mixed feelings about our son's teachers so far (he has two; they job share). While they're good about staying in touch about what's going on and giving me feedback, I'm not sure they entirely "get" the ADHD. Our son has had a horrendous start to first grade (two major incidents of aggression with kids that got him sent to the principal's office, plus not paying attention and defying teachers in class), so I'm trying to cut them a little slack.
When I took our son to the doctor last week about changing his medication, he was out during lunch (his problem time for acting up). When I talked to the teacher at the end of the day, she said, "It was SO nice not having him here today for lunch." I get that he's a challenge, but that stung.
So, we increased his Concerta and things seemed much better at home over the holiday weekend. There was a substitute there at pick-up yesterday, so I e-mailed about our son's day and the teacher e-mailed back about how they use these strategies for helping kids focus in class:
we have the parent volunteer check in with the student extra times during centers
-we ask the student to directly turn in their center slip to the teacher, which then gets sent home to the parents (this slip indicates which centers students finished that day). This often motivates students because they know they are being held accountable.
-we send work not completed during class home for the students to complete. This motivates some students to get more done during class time.
-if needed, we start a behavior chart, which communicates to the parents how each day was. If student stays on green all week, parents are encouraged to "reward" the child at home.
I like the first strategy of monitoring him during assignments, but I'm not sure the others will really make any difference if he's struggling with focus. I can see those strategies actually being deflating for our son when they don't work out. It's not like it's a motivation thing with him; he truly can't focus. We'll obviously talk to his doctor about the medication again, if needed, but still ...
What do you think? I'm trying not to be so negative, so I'm hoping someone will say the teachers are on the right track.