Is anyone else's child struggling with

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Is anyone else's child struggling with
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Wed, 09-17-2003 - 11:20pm
hand writing? We just had a meeting to add more OT (occupational Therapy) time for Joiner. He will now get OT twice a week. He has such bad habits that they are going very slow with him, one on one. The OT is using handwriting without tears program. It is helping so far. He used to retrace letters badly. I mean it was 5 & 6 times each retraced. Now he may do it once every few words. HUGE difference. He is being retaught all the letters, starting with capital ones, using the regular old fashioned lettering, like this typing. His school uses the denelian print style, which confussed Joiner badly. His class mates are writing in cursive only, and he is re-learning print. They told me that by the end of the year he should be ready to learn cursive, this is how slowly they are going with him. They will also teach him how to stay on the line, he goes all over, under & above the writing line.

I hope that if your child is having writing problems, please have the OT test. I asked about this 2 years ago. I was told that he was very young (he's the youngest in the class), he would catch up... on & on. Now, he has developed such bad habits that they have to reteach everything, like he was in Kindergarten. Joiner's 1st expulsion was b/c he pitched a fit over having to write something. He refuses to do work, mostly b/c of haivng to write. He showed severe anxiety last year, now I know it is b/c of writing. I wished that I had pressed the issue to be OT tested when he was in 1st grade. Now in 3rd he is that much farther behind. So please, if your child is having problems, have them test for OT.

Kathy

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Thu, 09-18-2003 - 12:03am
Mine does and he has been tested so his IEP is in full swing.....

tina

 

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Thu, 09-18-2003 - 7:32am
Handwriting issues here, too. When he first started on Ritalin, though, the difference in his handwriting was just incredible. Gradually, though, he lapsed back into his old habits. This year, his school has switched from D'Nealian to traditional manuscript. He brought home a handwriting paper the other day, and I had to double check to make sure it was his name at the top. It was beautiful! However, when he is writing anything other than "handwriting" he uses D'Nealian out of habit. I've often wondered about the OT thing, (no shoe tying, either) but he is at a Catholic school, and I'm not sure they have OT services available.

Karen

 


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Thu, 09-18-2003 - 9:08am
We're trying to get OT for my dd, too. She's in 3rd grade and I've been trying to get it for her for 2 years. She was dx with ADHD in 1st grade and recently dx with Asperger's Syndrome. I was told by the school that they will consider an OT evaluation but if they disagree about the need, we can ask for a 2nd opinion. My dd holds the pencil very tightly and presses very hard, and she complains, cries, has fits about writing. Her first grade teacher said she was just immature, her second grade teacher was generally wonderful but would say that dd just needed to "try harder." Now they are starting to learn cursive strokes. Dd's papers are completely marked up. She finds it intensely frustrating, and complains that it hurts to write. The doctor who dx her with Asperger's didn't do an OT evaluation.
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Thu, 09-18-2003 - 1:51pm
My son has major issues with handwriting, as well, and the frustration that comes with it. The school keeps saying that he doesn't qualify for OT - how often can you have them re-tested? I swear he is getting worse instead of better - my niece in kindergarten has better penmanship than he does. We should be getting the annual review of the IEP in October - believe me, that is on the top of my list (as it is every year). Now that he has more work in 3rd grade, and they are emphasizing writing skills, I am worried that he will become too frustrated to get his work done. Once he starts getting frustrated, he shuts down and won't do anything.
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Thu, 09-18-2003 - 9:06pm
Wow, am I glad I joined this board. In just a few days I've learned so much. My son's handwriting is AWFUL. I've been fighting with him since school started last week. he goes over his letters, turns them into block letters and then colors in anything he can (like o's, d's etc). Last year it wasn't this bad; I don't know what happened. He doesn't complain about it, but it's become such a focus that he's falling behind in schoolwork because he's busy messing with his writing. I'll remember the OT thing though and maybe start working with him again at home. The funny thing is that on the cursive practice sheets, he does fine; its just when he's doing the actual work that he 'drifts'...

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Thu, 09-18-2003 - 10:26pm
If they wont test, have his tested privately. Maybe they will take those results for the IEP. One thing I did for my sons IEP is keep some handwriting samples & show them at the meeting. Also, I kept lots of his work where the teacher wrote for him to write clearer or comments about penmanship. If you request in writing, they have ot at least test him. The school doesn't say, the OT says if he qualifies. If you have problems with the school, get an advocate who can help you with the legal aspects of IEP's & your rights.
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Sat, 09-20-2003 - 4:06pm
PLEASE HELP

At least I know my son isn't the only one with problem writing and severe frustration. Well maybe his is the worse case on the board so far. Last Wednesday he got so angry and frustrated with the teacher (teacher calling him lazy and not applying himself) that he got up out of his chair and was heading to the principal's office when the teacher cut him off and told him to return to the classroom. He said he needed to remove himself from the room and see the principal and she refused to let him pass. He then lost control and pushed her. Another teacher (male) came out and took my son to the ground and restrained him until the prinicpal came. Needless to say the prinicpals decision was to write my son up for ASSAULT and suspend him for 15 days. He now can't return to school until Oct 13th. I took my son to the Dr. on Thursday morning and she suggested that my son be started on ABILIFY. New drug for schizophrenia. My son told the school and the Dr that he was hearing voices and wanted to kill himself... HE'S just turned 10 a week ago!!!!! I am so lost... I have cried more in 4 days then in my 31 yrs of life.. I have bi-polar and have hit an all time low... I slept 18 hrs yesterday and feel clueless about how to help him. I've tried everything... He now is on 5 meds to function and no school. and the worst part is HE DOESNT CARE... I have placed a lock on his bedroom door so he can't go into it. (all toys are in there) He is now in the guest room with a bed, radio, books and paper. He isn't even phased by it. I feel so lost on how to reach him... Sometimes I wish it would all just end.. I'm tired of fighting to get through every day.

Any suggestions????
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Sun, 09-21-2003 - 4:42pm
I replied to you on your post for help. Let me know if you have any questions.
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Sun, 09-21-2003 - 4:43pm
I'm sorry to hear of your dilemna. I know how difficult things can get. Seems as if the school is not very understanding.

I'm sure it is also difficult for your son, plus with being on so many different meds. Please feel free to e-mail me, not sure if I have any answers but sometimes just talking about it helps. My email is : mgb32210@yahoo.com

Hang in there! ;o)

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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:55am
My son also has serious problems with handwriting. He is also using "Handwriting without Tears" He has been in OT since he was 2. He is 6 now. I am going to teach him keyboarding so he can get his stories out on paper.

BTW that is CRAP if your school says your kid does not qualify for OT. GRRR - it makes me soooo mad! It slows down his thinking because he has to work so hard to make letters. It frustrates him it turns him off to school, it ruins his self-esteem. I know. It's happened to my kid. We have been there. We are in the middle of it. Get a copy of your state regs and go in there and advocate.

Don't give up. There should be a non-profit parent advocate center for kids with special needs in your state. Good luck.

Dabra

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