baseball and ADHD

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baseball and ADHD
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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 10:14am
My DS Matthew is 9.5 and has just started playing little league in the league with the 9 and 10 year olds. Last year he played with the 7 and8 year olds where they don't take it as seriously.
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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 11:17am

Oh, funny, I came over to post my own thing (may get there later) & your title just popped, baseball is SO my child's thing. My kid wants to be a PRO baseball player. And, and, and...yeah.

OK, more helpfully: He HAS to have meds in him for the practices & the games (he being my kid!). Yes, OK, sometimes we screw up & he doesn't, but it's generally a large mistake. The sucky, sucky, sucky thing is that the med-crash is when my kid DOES get upset, so one also gets to try timing things so that the med crash comes before the end of practice--med crash is way before the hard-to-sleep effect wears off for us.

Honestly? He simply stays up later on practice/game days. Goodness knows he has homework to do often enough...but mostly we just send him to bed & he reads. People've used melatonin to help their kid get to sleep. Mine loves hot showers & falling asleep listening to the Red Sox play on the radio.

I wouldn't be giving him the 5 mg at 4pm, I'd be giving him it at the normal time for school & then more meds at...well, your kid, you know how long it lasts. For mine, it's Focalin XR during the day & then boost with plain Focalin before--let's see, had to have him at the field at 5 pm for game that lasted until 7:30 yesterday, he probably boosted about 4:30, just enough to let it wear on.

We do a LOT LOT LOT of talking about appropriate baseball behavior.

Your husband--man, OK, -I- feel bad for him too. Why's it the asst. coach saying this, not the head coach? IS this something the head coach thinks would be a good plan? Or just an extra-officious asst. coach? I ask 'cause there are some real annoying other adults in baseball, and some great ones... IS there a "bench coach" on the team? Someone who just sits on the bench & basically "controls" the kids? It really does seem to be necessary for some teams--and if they're getting into namecalling, it really doesn't matter who they're namecalling, now does it, it needs stopping. One thing I've seen work is to get the bench kids into cheering on the game, so less time for monkeying around with each other.

OK, this is wayy too long already, sorry about that!

Megan
Megan
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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 11:25am

HI, and welcome


My DD is 11, and plays Softball, not all that different from Baseball WE explained in the beginning that she had to show good sportsmanship, and be a team player. Misbehavior would NOT be tolerated, no matter how it was provoked.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 12:52pm

Thanks, Megan for your reply.

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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 12:56pm
Thanks, baykrismom for replying so quickly and with support!
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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 9:26am

I'm glad to hear about the head coach! Um, yes, if you give him XR at 4 pm, he'll be up all night for sure, so you do want to figure that one out.

And of course Matthew will fidgit. At our weeknight game last week, half the kids were off the bench & hanging on a tree, after being repeatedly told not to. MY kid wasnt--this year--guess he's learned? I can dream! I suspect it's more him being more interested in the game... Hmmph. -I- fidgit when I watch baseball games. Or sit around. What do they think all those pro players chew "gum" for, anyhow, if not as a fidgit? And eat sunflower seeds?

Good luck--baseball does seem to come with some idiot adults & annoying kids at times. Fortunately, there's also plenty of decent people, too!

Megan
Megan
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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 10:25am

Yes, the head coach called my DH last night and said the asst. coach was totally out of line for sending that email and he would tell him that, and that he wanted my DH to continue keeping score because it was very important and also he didn't want Matthew to feel different from the other boys.

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Mon, 05-04-2009 - 8:40am
I think you made a good choice about the meds. if you have him take a afternoon/early evening booster of short acting Focalin low dose, you might be on your way. My ds has it but hasn't tried it yet. It is for homework, or Boy Scouts if he needs it.
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Mon, 05-04-2009 - 8:57am
Hi.