Chores for a 7 yo w/ADHD

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Chores for a 7 yo w/ADHD
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Thu, 08-19-2010 - 2:49pm

We've been in survival mode for so long, I know we're late in getting our son to do household chores. I figured you all would understand. While medication helps tremendously when it's active, it's the time when he's home and it's not active that can be so difficult. For this reason, we just haven't had luck implementing chores. We tried charts and simple tasks for a while, but they fell by the wayside when faced with behavior difficulties at home.

Can anyone suggest some realistic chores for a seven year old that could potentially be done while he's at his worst? For instance, taking garbage out is a no because he'd just throw the full bag around the kitchen and make a mess in the morning. I would love to hear what has worked for other parents.

Thanks!
Michelle

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Mon, 09-15-2014 - 1:58pm

With younger children it can be more effective to turn regular household maintenance tasks into some type of game or fun, engaging activity. Ask if there are some tasks he/she enjoys. (Some folks enjoy doing laundry for example, but this is not a task for young ones.) This is far more engaging and incorporates child feedback thus making them more likely to complete and enjoy the activity.

You are only limited by your own imagination. It can even be fun for both parent and child!

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Registered: 09-21-2005
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 4:09pm
At 8 yrs old ..DS gets a list each day...mind you there are only 4 things on it...some of which are a given...like..make bed...read for 20 min....help claer table..help set table...help with garbages...yard work...feed cats...I make it different each day...and I incorporate his homework on the list...even though that is not a chore..it is more of a to-do list for him.

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 12:03pm

Thanks! I appreciate the feedback. It's useful to hear what others have done.

Michelle

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Fri, 08-20-2010 - 12:08am

I hear you on it being easier to do it yourself - and I think that has to do with every kid to some extent. I only have so much energy and fighting the battle is not always worth it. But I do know it isn't for them to do nothing and I expect all to help.

We have had some success with making the bed before breakfast (that is, they don't get to eat until the bed is made.) All 3 of mine are supposed to pick up dirty clothes and put them in the hamper. All help with the animals (cats, dog, ducks and geese.) I expect my 10 year old daughter to put away her clothes after they are folded, but I don't expect that from my 8 year old ADHD or 5 year old.

I expect them all to help when I ask: things like setting the table, helping with dinner, cleaning up the house and yard, weeding folding the napkins, vacuuming, carrying in groceries, putting groceries away and sweeping.

We have not paid allowance. I expect them to help, and to help each other. If they throw a fit, then I do too - and start listing all the things that I do around the house that I don't "Have" to but I do for other people. I only have had to do this a couple times, for my daughter. My ADHD has not done the "why do I have to do this..." but I expect my 5 year old to do it soon from the attitude he has had lately.

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Thu, 08-19-2010 - 7:54pm

Our 8 yo, although NOT ADHD does things like water the flowers, set the table, clear the table (not dishes as everyone is responsible for their own, but things like butter, salt, pepper...) and we pay PER CHORE so come payday, if DS is getting $5 and she's getting $2 she knows it's ON HER for not doing her chores.

Kathy

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 6:00pm
At 7 DD's chores probably consisted of : Cleaning her bathroom, putting up Her laundry, and making sure her room was clean. She also has always had the job of feeding her dog.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.