Controlling anger

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Controlling anger
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Mon, 09-13-2010 - 8:30am

What do you do to tyr and teacher your child to control his/her anger.?

Valentine Bingo               

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Sun, 03-06-2011 - 11:40pm

I think it can be hard for kids with ADHD to get the cause and affect piece that goes along with controlling their anger - like pinpointing what triggers it. My six year old sure hasn't figured it out yet :) We have tried a few different behavior therapies recommended by his therapist and I have seen some improvement. We really have to reinforce it at home and school. I really think some of that just comes with maturity but I would definitely ask the dr. for some strategies to try.

Good Luck ~ JoAnna

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Fri, 03-04-2011 - 3:49pm
Younger kids can understand that concept of others triggering things and they can chose to be angry or not. I think I was 5 when I realized if I didn't scream when my older brother tormented me that HE would get mad instead. (He-he!) Some therapies term this "Personal Power". It may be useful to google it.
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Thu, 03-03-2011 - 2:40pm

Wow!

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Wed, 09-15-2010 - 8:59am
What helped mine--around age 10-11, though--was a book about anger management aimed at kids. It helped him understand that he was making a choice to be angry, if that makes any sense. Helped him figure out the "warning signs" for "I'm about to pop", stuff like that. Not that I disagree with the others--but therapy didn't help, roughly because the issue wasn't frequent enough. Before that, we'd role-play things (is he aware of his "Fresh" tone of voice?). He's generally triggered by other kids, but, of course, that doesn't get you out of trouble (though I will say at least our school system, BOTH kids get in trouble!)
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Mon, 09-13-2010 - 10:39am
Counseling, OT, and meds have helped my son. We also had a behavior plan in place at school (and an IEP), and had the behavior specialist and guidance counselor seeing him at school. IMO the biggest thing that has helped my son, and his anger at school is the teacher. We've had teachers that "get" him, and have great years, and teachers who don't, and have horrible years.
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Mon, 09-13-2010 - 9:04am

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Your Psychiatrist can advise you, and offer counseling, which is usually what helps.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.