Could it be....?

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Registered: 06-09-2003
Could it be....?
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Mon, 06-16-2003 - 7:13pm
I have a 2.5 year old son who I'm beginning to worry about. I am extremely skeptical due to the issue of "over-diagnosing" children with ADHD so I feel somewhat guilty for suspecting it with my son. Since the day he was born he's had long crying jags, tantrums, and basically, at times, seems down-right miserable. He has no known medical problems and he's been checked ear infections, etc. He is the most kind hearted child I've ever met and he genuinly hates to get in trouble or for someone to be "mad at him" but it's like he just can't help it. As an infant, he would not sit in a swing, jumper, crib, my arms, or anywhere else without getting fussy after about 15 minutes. I gave him gas medicine in his bottles and suffered through it really but as he's gotten older I can see that he tries so hard to focus but just can't. When he gets something in his head that should be given to him or done for him...IT STICKS. We also have a 4 year old and we've always had set discipline in our home. It's worked out great for the oldest but I've even thought that maybe I needed to take a different course with the youngest since no two kids are alike. It hasn't worked! You can do just about anything and he will continue to beg, cry, and throw monsterous tantrums. I hate myself for this, however it did work for my parents and I'm not resentful, because I've even tried spanking him. With ever course of action we wait it out and stay consistent but after months of trying it another failing way it's quite depressing. I've tried to keep sane by telling myself that he's just "hard-headed" and if I could break through his barrier he'd be fine but it's not turning out as planned. It has got to the point where I feel sorry for him because I honestly feel like he can't control it. I'm a stay-at-home mom so I can't say how he acts at daycare or school but everyone teases that I'd better get ready for Homeschooling him. It doesn't feel much like a joke anymore. Should I get help for him or have him tested? Does any of this sound familiar? You know, I often tell people that he's just got a really BIG personality but now I think maybe I'm just robbing him of a happy childhood! Thanks in advance for your help!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-17-2003 - 8:37pm
Well, people talk of the terrible twos..so although he's had a hard time since birth, I'd still give it some time. I know being two can make him even more stubborn. This is the time to keep sticking to your guns and use timeouts when necessary. I know you've already been through so much but he truly is still young. 123 Magic is a good source, (a book) and no matter how much he tantrums you need to follow through with time out for a short time if he does something you've told him not to do..Just hang in there..he's still young.