Could it be ADD?

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Could it be ADD?
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 10:22am
Is it possible that my ds (13) could have ADD and its never been picked up until now? I have just returned from a parent/teacher meeting at his school. I met with 5 different teachers who all said similar things to me like "he can't stay focussed". "he is a dreamer", "he can't seem to get started", "he doesn't finish his work","he doesn't get much work done" etc, etc. I made the comment to one teacher that everything they were saying sounded like ADD to me and yet I had never thought that about him. She said she could get some testing done for him (discreetly) so I agreed. I have known he wasn't doing very well this year but hadn't thought of this. He hasn't done well really for the last 3 years. Could this have been the problem? Or is he just not trying as he doesn't really like school any more. Wouldn't we have picked it up sooner is he was ADD? I will have to wait now and see of course. He is a quiet kid but does like to talk a lot in class. At home he is the quiet stirrer of the other kids. What I am wondering is do children usually get diagnosed at this age or earlier?

Carol

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 7:36pm
Hi Carol, fancy meeting you over here. Anyway, if you're hesitating about an ADD or ADHD diagnosis because of his age because 'generally' kids are diagnosed at like 5-7, don't be. Many kids are older (some go into adulthood) when diagnosed. Check out "Driven to Distraction" ... a great book by 2 docs diagnosed in later years with ADHD. It is very interesting. Also, look at the 'checklist' for ADHD: http://pediatrics.about.com/library/bl_adhd_symptom_checklist.htm and see what you think.

If you haven't had a full evaluation done, now's a good time for that. Especially if whatever is going on is also affecting his school work.

Don't rule out the possibility, however, that he just learns in different ways. Are you familiar with All Kinds of Minds by Dr. Mel Levine? If not, look at this site: http://www.allkindsofminds.org/ Basically, not all kids learn in the same ways, and it's important to find ways in which a child can best learn. Many kids are mis-diagnosed with learning problems and behavioral issues when the teachers just haven't found the right way of teaching that child.

Good luck!

Nancy

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 9:28pm
Hi Carol! My DS13 was just diagnosed with ADD in Nov. of 2002. So, yes, it is possible for it to go undiagnosed until they're older. Adults get diagnosed with it also. I, like you, never even had ADD cross my mind with my DS. His grades were always good so all of the other 'little stuff' I just cast aside as 'oh, he's just a boy.' What I mean by 'little stuff' is what I see when I look back on all of his report cards from the past. Things like 'doesn't always use time wisely,' 'needs to turn in assignments on time,' 'doesn't work to the best of ability,' etc. etc. I looked at his grades and just disregarded all of these signs that something was going on. FINALLY, I had heard the same old story from teachers so many times about his behavior in the classroom that I decided to find out what was going on and that's when he was diagnosed. I agree with Nancy - get a full evaluation and see what you find out. It could just be a teen thing, too. Good luck and keep us posted. Take care!

(((HUGS)))

Ann

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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 7:42am
Hi Nancy, thanks for the info. I will check out the sites and books you suggested. I haven't had much trouble with this ds before except that he did turn off school at about 8 to 9 years of age. No-one has ever suggested ADD before - it was just at this meeting everything the teachers were saying to me sounded familiar to me as I have looked into it before for ds (11). So I will wait and see. Thanks again.

Carol

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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 7:46am
Hi Ann, thanks for the response. your ds sounds quite a lot like mine. I have never considered ADD before because he is not hyperactive but of course that is not the only criteria. Because this ds is quiet is the very reason he may have been overlooked. Hopefully it is just a teen thing as he is very definately in the teen stage. I will let you know.

Carol