Dealing w/others who don't understand your child

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Registered: 09-23-2011
Dealing w/others who don't understand your child
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 12:51pm

The hardest thing in life is seeing your child trying to control his every move, trying to control his temper, his mood swings, his anxiety & stress levels...

When everyone around you say's just give up, hope whispers keep going... Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark...
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Registered: 11-13-2008
(((HUGS))) It's so hard to watch your child be treated like that. I really wish I hadn't passed up past opportunities to really tell a few parents in my son's life what I really thought of them. Honestly, though, people that are ignorant enough to make comments to your child probably wouldn't learn from anything we could teach them. All you can do is to give him extra love and tell him that those people are actually the stupid ones who have no compassion. Poor little guy, my heart goes out to you both.

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Registered: 09-23-2011
This is all so new to all of us.. Thank you so much for commenting.. We are trying to be a good family the best way he knows how..
When everyone around you say's just give up, hope whispers keep going... Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark...
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Registered: 09-12-2003

{{{HUGS}}}} I always say Liam is my test from God and its beyond his ADHD and anxiety, started before he was born. We had ups and downs in the pregnancy, lows finding out he had a facial defect the VERY same defect I remember sitting in a biology class in college learning about think dear God if my future kids has to have a birth defect don't let it be that (yes true niave self centered college age me but not that I couldn't love him, see I was picked on in school for being first to mature and well if kids picked on me for having curves what would they do to a kid with a scar on their face and crocked nose who talked different) Digging even deeper to my ignorant college days my time working retail....really get that screaming crying misbehaving child OUT. And some of this I claim as my DH "fault" his theory ADHD is soley the cause of sugar. I guess its my proof their is a God and he does pay attention.

Now I have probably learned more about unconditional love then most of my mommy friends and yes I get defensive. I see the reactions when he cries in a playground or throws a tantrum or

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Registered: 09-23-2011

Thank you so much for your reply... I remember too being that way, in my younger days.. I find myself asking my son if he is okay more than I should.. The biggest obstacle that we have been faced with is his ablility to manage his anger.. The littlest things make him explode & within minutes he is over it like it never happened. I'm trying to teach him to always take the higher road, to never bring yourself down to others levels.

When everyone around you say's just give up, hope whispers keep going... Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark...
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Registered: 09-16-2010

I'm sorry that both you and your son have to deal with this. People (especially children) can be so cruel and it infuriates me to no end. The way I deal with people that are like that is to fight right back. I have tried to be nice in the past and just turn the other cheek, but I noticed that not only would I be miserable and I