Discipline with ADHD - any suggestions?
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|Thu, 08-27-2009 - 10:43am|
Ok, so now I have gotten into this whole parents forum thing, and really love it....It helps me see what other moms are doing vs just what my doctor says. This issue is a very touchy one , I understand. I dont need a heated debate, just some advice from other ADHD parents...
I need to know how to discipline my son.....right now hes off his meds. Thats only because we have had a terrible time getting him to swallow the pills and when we mix them in drinks, no matter what drink, he gags, and throws it up and it always causes fighting and yelling. (Only because I know he cant taste it because I tried it!!) Its all mental, he knows its in there and will not do it. Like most things in his life, when hes got it in his head he doesnt want to he wont. We also have a serious problem with being mouthy, you know, arguing back, and you as the adult will not get the last word in, ever, without threats of spanking. Grounding him doesnt work because then hes just bored then that cause him to be more mouthy....mostly saying stuff like "man!!!" or "UGH!! I Said I Wont Do IT Again and I'm Sorry!!". Also this give him no outlet to release the energy thus creating a vicious cycle. Now let me clarify, he does sometimes say things that are rude and mean and he does sometimes raise his voice not just at us but other adults. (Never at School, that I dont understand!) Its very hard to ground him and make it stick for that reason alone - its just like hell around my house when hes not getting his way. My husband wants to spank him and I have always said I would support that decision if it went that far but I still cant do it. I feel like my husband doesnt fully understand that he doesnt know hes doing something wrong untill after its done. My husband thinks I am too easy on him and that I give too much because I think his ADHD is worse than it really is. With that being said we are constantly fighting too, he says I undermine him, which I do and am working on, but all the same we need a plan.
He will be back on his meds today, we are going to try the patch. I hope this will