Do ADHD kids ever------

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Do ADHD kids ever------
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 1:33pm
finish a task they want to complete. Or is it that they CAN'T finish a task--even if they wanted to? I'm talking without medication. I'm still trying to figure out my 3yo and I know he'll be diagnosed with ADHD and I really don't think he has it. If there are things he wants to do--he will finish them. He does jump from one activity to another---because he loses interest very quickly. But if it's something he wants to play with--he will for an hour +. Or if he's coloring--he will finish it until it's done.(but only on days that he wants to--other days he's distracted and goes to something else).

I guess I see my son with more OCD traits when it comes to finishing something. He is the extreme---either he jumps from one activity to another or finishes something to the point of obsessiveness. Or maybe he is both OCD and ADHD?

I asked this question over on Parentsplace and no-one answered--so I thought I'd try here.

Holly

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 5:34pm
Yup! I think the term Attention Deficit is a little misleading. My kids can sit and watch a movie without moving a muscle. Then rewind it and watch it again. They can play for hours with their castle or build with Legos or play a computer game. It's not that they are always pinging off the walls. My oldest wasn't diagnosed until 1st grade, and even then he wasn't a behavior problem. He just sat orbiting the earth until his day at school was over.

Does that answer your question at all?

Karen

 


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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 6:17pm
I think 3 years old is a bit young to be labeling already and worrying that they are not finishing things. I think at 3 years old, a lot of children don't finish things.
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 10:44pm
You're probably right, but I was just answering the question - Do ADHD kids ever finish anything?

Three years old is young to be diagnosing, unless it's a severe case, but my DS was about 3 when I started to see the first clues that he might be ADD. I didn't stress, though, when the daycare teacher complained about him looking at the ceiling while he colored or looking out the window. Just figured a 3 year old boy would probably rather do a million other things besides color....playing outside being chief among them.

Karen

 


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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 8:37am
Sorry karen, I really meant that in response to the first question of this subject. Didn't mean it directly at you.
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 2:46pm
I guess I had always assumed that ADHD kids CAN'T focus even when they wanted to.

Yes my son is only 3yo--but he is definitely not "normal". I would be thrilled if his only problem was not focusing and bouncing off the walls.

He is extremely aggressive and destructive. I can't get him to time-out without getting bit or kicked a bunch of times. We can't keep him in a carseat or stop him from peeing on the floors. No behavior charts or discipline has helped us. He gets kicked out of Sunday school at least once/month. He goes to special ed preschool(since March) and was doing great there until this last month. He has been getting many time-outs/day and loses many privledges. He must be finally "relaxed" enough at school to show the "real" Jacob!!

We've been to a psychologist twice--in which he had to refer us to other drs. because he can't help us anymore. Everything he suggested for us to do or read---we had already done it. Now we are getting autism ruled-out in June.

Personally, I think he has early-onset bipolar. But I know he will be diagnosed with ADHD first until he's older.

Holly

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 2:54pm
Have you looked into ODD(oppositional Defiant Disorder). There is a great support board here with lots of resource pages. My ds almost 10 is ADHD/ODD.

Just a tought.

Liza

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 3:16pm
I've looked into that----but I assumed ODD was a constant behavior. My son isn't aggressive/defiant all the time. He has very unstable/unpredictable moods. He goes days being pretty much a "normal" extremely active, impulsive, unpredictable kid. But he will not be horrible--like on his "bad" days. His "normal" days--aren't that great---but they don't even start to compare with his bad days.

Can you tell me more about ODD?

Holly

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 6:42pm
resource site..http://pages.ivillage.com/keke0116/id12.html..

hope it helps