Do you hide your child's condition/keep all private?
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|Tue, 12-14-2010 - 2:36pm|
I just got a horrible phone call from my dad and wanted to get some perspective from others in my position. I posted a vague quote from Howie Mandel about ADHD on my Facebook page a week or so ago and interacted with a few friends also dealing with the condition. Not saying anything terrible about our son, just noting how difficult ADHD can be. Well, my dad felt compelled to call me during my work time, I add, to tell me it's a bad idea to say anything about ADHD publicly and that it would hurt our son if he read about it on Facebook (uh, he's seven and not even on there, not to mention, I didn't say anything remotely negative like what other people do on Facebook about their kids on a daily basis). He said it's best kept private. I said, no, it's good to have support and this isn't anything shameful. Besides, I rarely even mention ADHD. I couldn't tell you when I last did on Facebook, perhaps never.
I was really, really peeved. Like it's not hard enough to parent a child with ADHD, I'm supposed to stay in a cocoon and just hide it? To me, this was just another "you're not doing it right," which they already give enough of as we do our very best to manage our son. They have no clue what we go through every day and how hard we work as parents.
Anyway, I was wondering how open the rest of you are about your child's condition. I know you're on here being open, but what about in your daily lives. Do you keep it totally private and just deal on your own? Do you pretend like your child doesn't have it?
I hardly feel like I'm out there with a neon sign being open about ADHD, but I don't feel it's useful to treat it like it's a shameful condition, either. All of my friends and other family know our son has it and until now, have been supportive and open in discussing it in a useful manner.