My son is 6 years old and is very bright.
Hi, and welcome!
Honestly, no it does not sound like ADHD, he sounds like a normal 6yo boy who has better things to think about than school.
If you start seeing issues at home, school and
A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.
Actually - I wish my ds would have been like yours - LOL
I would give this some time - I don't see ADHD - I see someone who is very smart and might just be getting bored in school and loses interest in areas that he already knows.
Don't let a teacher even suggest ADHD - they are not allowed to - you just need to work with the teacher and maybe arrange for quiet time for him to do tests etc.
Do you mean taking 15 minutes to brush, or 3 hours?Playing is normal at age, within reason. I had to brush DD's teeth for her until age 10 or so, just so it would get done...she could literally spend 3 hours "getting ready" to brush.
He still sounds like a typical 6 year old to me...
Yes, 15 minutes or so - definately not 3 hours.
No, not really a medical background. I am in school ( again ugh) getting a degree in early child psychology, BUT, mostly it is all personal experience.
You also mentioned issues with writing. I might have his fine motor skills assessed by an OT(?) to see if the writing and needing help with things could be fine-motor related. When he's asking for help, if you know for certain that he's capable of doing the job himself (because you've seen him do it independently before), then I agree with your DH, but otherwise, if he's asking for help then I'd give it to him. My DS (12 yo) gets really frustrated when he can't do things on his own and I'd love it if he could consistently ask for help rather than just having a meltdown.
I disagree with the others, btw, who say that they don't think that it could be ADHD. My DS and I both have ADHD, and neither of us were/are prone to acting out or leaving our seats during class time. We were/are both daydreamers and have difficulty with task completion. Our varieties of ADHD are: (me) ADHD/inattentive type, and (DS) ADHD/combined type (meaning there's inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity...although inattention is still the main trait).
It's well worth listening to what the teacher has to say (although she is not permitted to offer possible dx or treatments) and possibly have your DS assessed by a professional (pediatrician or child psychologist/psychiatrist).
The daydreaming you are describing is a pretty good description of ADHD-inattentive as it showed up in my kid in 1st grade. Sort of like distraction, but coming from his own head, not from the outside.
But, it's a question of degree: obviously all kids don't just sit down & work continually. It's just not going to happen. ADHD, especially (IMHO!) at the younger ages, it's a question of whether their symptoms come out of the "normal" range--to give a different example, nearly all 5 yr old boys wiggle. Lots. So much that you can't necessarily tell a mild ADHD boy from the others. But a few years later, it is blindingly obvious, because the others developmentally calmed down lots & the ADHD one only a little if at all. Same for concentration...
For my kid, we started meds in the summer between 1st & 2nd. Before meds, we'd ask him to write a sentence. He'd need refocusing every 1-4 words, sometimes needing a reminder about about what he'd planned to write. After meds, he'd simply write the sentence. Writing, for my kid, is hardest--TOO many things to keep track of: what you're writing (the words), the spelling, the handwriting, the puctuation, the spaces between the words, etc. It all came together to make it all really hard.
The thing you can probably check at home for ADHD that's a somewhat reasonable metric is, can he follow a 3-step instruction?
That's a really good suggestion. My DS is 12 yo, and even medicated, can't do that yet.