Experience with Other Mom's Reactions?
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|Wed, 07-30-2003 - 4:27pm|
As we're getting ready to go back to school, I've been thinking about this. To me, this has been one of the most hurtful parts about having a child with ADHD - the looks, comments, etc.
On the first day of kinder our DS was overly-excited and he was bugging this other little boy and hugging him, getting in his face - his mother turned to another mother and said something like "Oh, he's always like that." Not in a nice way either. I don't believe that she knew that was my son she was commenting upon. Another time, my son acted up in church and we had to pull him out, trying to be helpful (I guess) another mother told me, "I know he's a behavior problem." I think I just dropped my mouth - inside my head, I said "Thanks a freakin' lot for your helpful insight." There have been other things like this - it made me feel pretty isolated and really like a bad mom - gave me a lot of shame. And, I guess I accepted it, too.
Of course, other moms have been really nice and helpful. The most being another mom whose daughter and husband has ADHD. She really talked with me in a gentle, non-pushy way about meds and encouraged me. Another mom has been really nice, too and supportive.
I don't want to borrow trouble for the new school year - I'm going with a positive attitude - but sometimes its hard with "the looks."
How have other people dealt with these types of situations?