Friends being mean

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Friends being mean
Fri, 04-11-2003 - 12:39pm
My son has always had friends and they have always liked and played with him with the ADD problems. But all of a sudden my son is complaining that his friends are making fun of him and don't want to play with him. I know something is going on because when I go to pick him up at the after school program he has his backpack on and is waiting for me. This has never happened. I usually have to tell him repeatedly to get his stuff we need to go.

I don't understand what changed. These are kids he has been friends with since kindergarten. I was wondering if there was a certain age you noticed this happening with your children. It is so difficult already for my son with ADD and I don't want anything to happen to make it worse. I am so scared for him. He is such a sensitive boy and his friends are his life line to normalsy. I can't imagine what this will do to his already low self esteem.

Any ideas or suggestions are greatly appreciated.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-11-2003 - 2:38pm
How old is your son? I know with my son he tells me he has no friends, but his teacher says that he does play with a few kids, altho they never ask him over to play. At after school he had none, the place was too loud for him & he was very aggitated by all the noise. He no longer goes there.

Now as far as your son's friends, you say they all have been friends since K? How about you having a little party or get together at your house. Maybe something to welcome to warm weather like a beach party indoors. Maybe that will help your son get through this hump in the road, and the other kids back on "his side". Kids will like someone one day & hate them the next. Also, encourage your son to find other friends. There has to be other kids at after school. Does your son have any other activities he is in? He can make better friends with those kids. My son is playing baseball, in scouts & is in a socialization group therapy with other boys his age. He is still very socially inept, but we are working on it.

I hope this all passes & things go back to normal for your son. It's so hard on them.