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|Thu, 10-29-2009 - 11:49pm|
I have 5 kids altogether. 3 girls and 2 boys. The girls are all great students. The 2 older ones were always on honor roll etc. The youngest one is in Kindergarten. She loves school and the teachers says she wishes she had 20 just like her.
Now the boys. They are 8 and 10. They are smart. But they do not pay attention in class. They act up. They forget books, lose books and homework and can't remember what the teadcher said in class. There is hardly a week that goes by without a bad report from one or both of their teachers about work not done, not handed in, not paying attention, etc.
Some days I am convinced that one or both of them have ADD. But then I think that surely I couldn't have two kids with it. Maybe I'm just a bad mother of boys. Or maybe boys are just different. Or maybe the boys got their father's genes more than mine because he said he was always not that great in school while I always made straight A's. Now DH is very smart and has an engineering degree and is a major geek. I think he has Asperger's.
Anyway, I outright asked the 10 yr old's teacher if she thought he had ADD and she wouldn't asnwer me. She said she wasn't a doctor and couldn't make that call. So I wrote her back and said that I was simply asking for her opinion not a diagnosis. After all I figure a teacher would have a heck of a lot more experience with ADD kids than I have right? I haven't got an answer from her yet.
I don't know the first step in getting the boys checked for ADD. I know to go to a doctor, but what kind? Just a pediatrician? I asked the pediatrician about it once when they were quite younger and he just said that boys are boys and that's just how they act. So I'm reticent about going back to that dr. with this again. I don't know anyone else in this town so I don't know who I could ask for references.
Does insurance pay for ADD evaluation? What about the drugs? How much does insurance pay for those usually? I have a plan that I pay $20 copay for dr. visits and $20 for generic medicine. Does insurance usually pay good for ADD? I'm just so clueless and the school is absolutely no help. It's like they don't want me to go to the dr. But they have no problem sending those notes home every week saying that something needs to be done or the grades will start dropping. Right now both boys are making A's and B's. But yet the teachers keep complaining about them as if they are the worst kids they have ever seen. Maybe I'm overeacting and being too sensitive. But it seems that the school is not being very helpful. It's like they want me to do all the teaching at home and just send little robots to school to sit there and take the tests.
How common is it to have 2 kids in the same family with ADD? Is that possible or am I just looking for an excuse for my boy's bad behavior?
Sorry for the rambling but I have noone to talk to about this and I'm about to explode. I have a teacher conference in 2 weeks for the youngest one to talk about evaluating for Autism/Asperger's. Should I discuss the ADD thing at that meeting or just shut up about it like they seem to want me to?