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|Tue, 05-27-2003 - 9:26pm|
I need some help, DH and I are going crazy!!
my step-son is 9, he was recently diagnosed as
ADHD. He's on concerta right now, but it doesn't
seem to make a difference. he's extremely hard
headed and stubborn. he doesn't listen to us or
his teachers. several times in school he just
decided he wasn't going to do his work so he
didn't. needless to say he barely passed. he's
also gifted but not a bit of common sense (last
week he put a can of soup in the microwave to
heat it up, he knows better than that). he's
also very spoiled by grandma, which we are in
the process of putting a stop to it. my husband
was in the navy for the first 4 yrs of DS's life,
grandma raised him during that time. she never
disciplined him, always let him do what he wanted.
by the time he was 7 yrs old, she had bought him
a computer, sony play station, tv, vcr, dvd player,
game boy & several games. he also had a tv, own
bedroom, own playroom, vcr, and computer at her house.
now he's not ever grateful for anything we buy him.
if I buy him something and he's not with me, when
I give it to him it's not thank you, but why didn't
you buy this one or that instead. The pychiatrist
that I bring him to now for his medication doesn't
seem to help much. I told him I didn't know how to
discipline him and he just said "restriction". so
far we've done a lot of that. he doesn't have his
own tv, vcr, dvd player or computer at home (now it's
ours). we limit his time watching tv, playing video
games and time on the computer. we limit his time at
grandma's. I guess this is normal with all kids, but
nothing he ever does is his fault. it's always someone
else's. when he doesn't have his homework in school,
he tells his teacher that I took it out of his school
bag and didn't put it back.
any suggestions on how to teach him to listen to his
parents and teachers? also we'd like to teach him
any help would be appreciated.