Have some ?s about school vs homeschool

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Registered: 12-08-2005
Have some ?s about school vs homeschool
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 12:30pm

My 11 year old son has ADHD. He was diagnosed when he was 5 and has been medicated since he was 6, so this is nothing new. However, he is having a really hard time in school this year. He has a teacher that is in her very 1st year of teaching and I don't think that she knows how to deal with him. I've talked to the office and they seem to be on the teachers side and just think that my son is 100% of the problem, even though he went to that same school last year and didn't have any problems (he had a teacher that had been teacher for like 30 years#. I'm not nieve to the fact that he can be difficult sometimes, but I don't think it is all him.

Anyway, on to my question. My state offers an online school program that is through the school district. He would still be considered as being enrolled in public school and could go to back to a regular public school next year if he chose to, but all the classes are online and done through an interactive classroom setting. I am torn as to what to do. Should I pull him out of his school and enroll him in this program? Has anyone with a child with ADHD ever tried something like this?

I think he will do much better 'cause he won't have the distractions that he would have in class, he could work at his pace #he is extremely intelligent), but most of my family is against it. But yet they are not the ones that have to deal with it, KWIM? I just need some advice from fellow parents of kids with ADHD!!!

Sorry this got so long, and TIA!

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Wed, 09-30-2009 - 1:17pm

HI, and welcome

I haven't tried it, and I don't know anyone who does online schooling. I do know several people who homeschool however.

If you are willing, and able to do it then

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 2:53pm

I homeschool my DS (this is our first year homeschooling), but we don't do online school. I've heard good things about online schools, but the drawback that I saw for my DS was that not all of his skills were at grade level, and I worried that he'd be just as stressed out doing online school as he was when he was in PS.

Another thing about homeschooling a child with ADHD is that they need more supervision than other kids. Even when my DS is doing independent work, I have to be in the room, watching how he's doing, and refocusing him when he's distracted or daydreaming (and, yes, he's medicated). But, overall, I love homeschooling, and I think that it will benefit my DS enormously in the end.

Good luck with your decision!

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Wed, 09-30-2009 - 3:33pm

Ashley - I didn't realize we had more in common that just our JS!

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Registered: 12-08-2005
Thu, 10-01-2009 - 2:22am

I wish he could switch teachers, but they only have 2 6th grade teachers and he has one in the morning and one in the afternoon (each teacher teaches different supjects), so there is no oportunity for him to move. He could defintly go back into regular PS if the online school dosent work out, 'cause it is through the school district. His meds were just adjusted, hoping that would help, but I think there is far more going on here

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Thu, 10-01-2009 - 8:53pm

Just to play devil's advocate here, but unless his teacher is trained in how to specifically deal with ADHD students, she probably doesn't know how to deal with him. Teachers get little training in working with special needs students beyond maybe one class in exceptional students and they get maybe the same amount of training in classroom management. Student teaching does some preparing of teachers for the classroom but it's a completely different game when you're in the classroom by yourself with 20 some students. I didn't fully grasp what I needed to do with my students who were ADHD until I met my now husband and spent time with my oldest step-daughter who has ADHD and I've been teaching in sum total for almost 10 year.

If he has an IEP, it might help to find out if she's seen it. Pass along techniques that worked with him last year. And if possible, give her a bit more time to get her bearings. The first year of teaching is very overwhelming and it can be overwhelming for students of a first year teacher as well.

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Thu, 10-01-2009 - 11:09pm


Although every child is different I wanted to share my recent experience with homeschooling my child who has Aspergers, but includes the ADHD and is very hyper.

We signed up for the homeschooling public charter school, but it's hard as my son is all over the place and is easily distracted.