Haven't Been Diagnosed Yet...But Questions?

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Registered: 08-26-2010
Haven't Been Diagnosed Yet...But Questions?
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Fri, 11-05-2010 - 1:12pm

Hi my name is Karen and I have 3 wonderful girls. My second daughter Megan has been behind ever since Kindergarten. But it hasn't really been apparent that she was that far behind until midway through 3rd grade. But this year, 4th grade, it seems to have gotten a lot worse. She is far behind in every subject.

At the recent parent teacher conference I was bombarded by both her teachers (she has two teachers who take turns teaching through the week) and her reading group teacher. I felt like I was in some sort of a nightmare. She is far behind in reading, writing, and math. The only positive they had to say was that she is a friendly girl.

They say in class she will sit quietly and look like she is hard at work. But when they check her work they find out that she didn't understand the lesson and did the problems wrong. She won't ask for help when she doesn't understand she will just do it the way she thinks it should be done. Every time they do practice work for something they've already learned they have to instruct Megan on how to do the problems. (Say with multiple digit addition problems and how she needs to carry the number over to the left and start with the very right number). Her writing looks like it belongs to a 1st grader and not only is it the misspellings but the incomplete sentences, lack of punctuaction, not using capitalization. We remind her all the time about these things at home, always correcting her homework, and its just very very frustrating.

She has been in speech therapy through her school since the 3rd grade. And even when she was 5 we would have to correct her when she would say "We're going to we're house." or "We are going to we're room." She would say we're instead

 


Karen



 


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Registered: 05-02-2004

Ok, first, the teacher should not be diagnosing.

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Registered: 08-26-2010

Her teacher was not saying that she had ADHD or didn't have it-she was simply stating that she thought of ADHD as a possibility but not a definite. I do actually have a meeting scheduled to deal with special education issues. We will be meeting to discuss options and what needs to happen next, testing, etc. Her school suggested waiting until the 3rd grade to start Speech Therapy because it was their belief that most kids with speech delays are able to speak normally by the end of the 2nd grade. When my daughter brings her speech cards home she can say the words much better now then when she first started and we see improvement. When I go to the meeting they will be discussing new methods they are going to be using with Megan.

As far as the punctuation she has showed that she knows how to use it but she doesn't always use it. If you remind her to use punctuation before she writes she will use it on every sentence. If you don't remind her she will either not use it at all or only use it on some of the sentences. She will also use periods when she should be using question marks.

Yesterday I had her do her math homework and I was going to check it once she was through. When I checked the homework I noticed that she was coming up with numeric answers that had nothing at all to do with the problem. She just wrote in random numbers.

 


Karen



 


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Registered: 05-02-2004

Hmmm. It does sound like she may have figured some ways to manipulate people (those tears at the beginning of school.)

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Registered: 04-19-2008

Hi, and welcome

I would arrange a full evaluation with a Psychologist, or Neuropsychologist,( your regular Dr or Pediatrician should not diagnose, or test).