When DD was first diagnosed I told her teachers, and coaches. I feel like everyone else is on a "doesn't need to know basis". It is up to DD now that she is 13, and she tells some friends, but thats it.
Not everyone has to know, only those you feel comfy telling.my MIL has no idea...lol
A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.
We were very open with family members. Honestly, the diagnosis explained all that we'd been going through. I also shared links to sites like those for ADDitude magazine and CHADD so they could read more about the condition.
We also told teachers, childcare providers and babysitters. I've found the more open I am with teachers, the easier it goes. They understand his behavior and can let me know when our son's medication doesn't seem to be working as well anymore, so we can talk to the doctor about an increase. Teachers seem to like our son a whole lot more understanding him from the beginning than when he was undiagnosed and just seemed like a bad kid.
I tell other parents on a need to know basis. For instance, if our son is going off to a playdate on his own with a friend, I will let the mom know so she understands why his behavior might not seem normal (although when he's on medication, no one knows, but as it wears off, which often happens during playdate times, it can be an issue).
Keep in mind there's nothing to be embarrassed about. The people who knock ADHD don't know anything about it. It's not something you cause as a parent. It's a brain disorder. As a parent, it's your job to help your child and love unconditionally. I've found the more people criticize our son's behavior, the more passionate I become about defending him and explaining his medical condition.Best of luck to you as you begin this journey,Michelle