Hello ,Im new to this board

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Hello ,Im new to this board
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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 11:52am
I have a 4 and half year old son.He has developmental delays and attends a special needs preschool.At his IEP meeting his teacher says he has a hard time staying on a task and that he often needs to be redirected.At home he wont sat still for very long.He always does the same play over and over.He pretends to shot things with his hands,and wont play anything else.When I ask him to get me something he just looks up in the air for it.My husband and I are very concerned.His neuro doesnt really say much about this.Im afraid he might have ADHD,He has a few cousins who has ADHD and they have problems in school.I only have 14 months before he starts kindergarden.Is it to soon to get him help?Or sould I wait and see how he does?Any advice Please,Thankyou

Tammy
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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 1:06pm
Hi Tammy! I'm new too; just found this board yesterday. My understanding is that most docs want to wait til the child is in 1st grade, when school is becoming more structured, before they diagnose. What I'd do in preparation for that is speak to DS's kindergarten teacher with your concerns about his behavior (don't volunteer the label 'ADHD' though; too many schools overreact to it) and ask him/her to observe and keep you informed. Then do the same in 1st grade. Then you'll be armed to go to the doc and say "this is what's happening, and it's been happening consistently for X amount of time."

HTH! I know how hard it is to wait when you already know in your heart what's going on.

~Jodi

Mommy to Justin (7,ADHD), Kyle (4), & Alicia (2)

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 3:40pm
Hi Jodi,

Thankyou so much for the information.I will take your advice and wait and see how hes doing in school.Maybe by then he will be doing better.Take care,

Tammy
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Wed, 07-09-2003 - 6:30am
My feeling is that if you suspect something is going on, then you probably need to check it out and explore it further. But, at this age, it's sort of hard to sometimes detect or diagnose. I mean, most 3-4 y.o.'s are not focused, are easily distracted, don't follow through with requests, etc. So, is it an age-thing or is there a problem? Docs generally look at patterns of behavior lasting at least 6 months, present in at least 2 of 3 primary settings. If he's like this at school and at home, then that may signify a problem. AND if there is a family history of ADHD, then the odds lean more toward 'something' going on than normal age stuff. The sooner you know the 'what' the sooner you can help him ... and if there is a problem that can be treated or worked on, if you can start that before he is struggling in school, you've given him an early start. So, probably worth exploring further ... even if only to relieve your own anxieties and concerns.

Nancy

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Wed, 07-09-2003 - 12:37pm
Hi Nancy,

Thankyou for the advice.I often wondered if it would be better to get him help now.The thing that worrries me most is the thing he does with his hands over and over.He has been doing it for over a year,I have never seen a child do this and I have been around alot of kids his age.I guess I over worry at times.I dont want kids teasing him in school.Hopefuly with 1 more year of preschool will make a difference.Take care

Tammy
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Wed, 07-09-2003 - 5:50pm
My son was diagnosed with ADHD at age five. It was important because there was trouble in preschool as well as at home, and it was starting to affect his self esteem.

My son is nearly 9 now, and things are wonderful.

I think if you have concerns you should look into them, but from what you've written, it isn't necessarily ADHD. There are such a range of behaviors that overlap and so I wouldn't be so quick to think ADHD is it. Repetitive hand movements in fact can go with other diagnosis' as well. If you're truly concerned, you might want to see a behavioral/developmental prediatrician with your concerns. See what they say.