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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 10:04am

Hello everyone. My name is Christie, and I have a daughter who I suspect is ADHD. We have an appt. for evaluation next week, which was finally made after months of heartache.

 

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In reply to: cgtambo
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 10:51am
Good to know! Thanks!

 

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In reply to: cgtambo
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 10:46am
The Dr won't be able to help with a 504, or IEP, that is the schools Dept. They will have to do an educatinal evaluation, to see where she needs to be.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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In reply to: cgtambo
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 10:35am

Megan-


Thanks for the words of support and encouragement!

 

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Wed, 03-10-2010 - 9:32am

Good for you for getting her evaluated! Online research--we're fairly safe here ;}. I do agree about there being far too many "the meds were awful" stories out there--obviously the thousands of perfectly happy customers aren't as loud!

Meds--you've got the right attitude, I remember being SO scared to medicate my kid. It was truly realizing that we could STOP that helped. Though once I saw how much it helped him, there was no way we were going to stop! Years later, it's one of the best choices we've made for the kid--SO much easier to deal with teachers who see the good in your kid most of the time.

Do know that (if you're in the US), you can get a 504 or IEP plan for your ADHDer if she needs extra supports to cope in school--at that age, things like extra motion breaks, being sent on "errands", anything that helps the kid get to move on a frequent basis can help. Preferential seating is often recommended, and I'd agree--though in KG, it wasn't so much about away from the door for my kid, but in a spot in the circle where he could lean against something. Also, there are things called "Move 'N Sit" cushions, which let the kid wriggle in their chair without the chair moving around (in 1st grade, the chair went over about once a day, apparently, before they gave him this; KG was better, the teacher had lots of motion involved for everyone).

Good luck!

Megan
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In reply to: cgtambo
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 6:28pm

Michelle-


Thanks for your reassurance. It is scary-thanks for the tip about not researching online. I would have done it and I am sure freaked myself out over the things that I read!


I hope to have a similar experience with my daughter as you did with your son. If she could just calm down and focus, people could see her for the funny, smart girl she is!

 

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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 1:55pm

We started our son on ADHD meds when he was four, so I can relate to the concern over it all. It took some trial and error to find the right medication, but it made such a HUGE difference. Now, his teachers don't see him for all the negatives associated with ADHD; they see how smart, funny and kind he is. Medication completely changed our son's world and our family's world in tremendously positive ways.

Stay away from online research about specific medications. You will find a lot of scary misinformation out there (there are a lot of anti-meds people out there who have little to no knowledge of ADHD). Ask your child's doctor 1,000 questions if you have to, but seek the input of medical professionals first. Other parents who've tried certain medications before also can give you useful insights.

What always reassured me is that if I didn't like any side effects, we could stop immediately. Day one, don't like it, that's it. We quit one med, Adderall, after just a couple days because we didn't like how our son behaved as it wore off. That was it. Appetite reduction seems to be the big one with these meds, but we found that over time, that was less of an issue and even if it is, there are ways to work around it (big breakfasts and dinners, for instance).

Good luck as you start this process!
Michelle

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In reply to: cgtambo
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 1:54pm
Welcome to the board!

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In reply to: cgtambo
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 12:55pm

Thanks for the kind welcome!


I think that the only thing that keeps me positive through this is knowing I will not be doing her any favors by ignoring what's going on and that if we don't like it, we don't have to continue any form of treatment.

 

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In reply to: cgtambo
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 10:31am

HI, and welcome!


I think we have all been there, afraid of the diagnosis, meds etc. I actually was relieved when we got the diagnosis, and I knew it was thorough. I had a reason for DD problems.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.