Help! Completely Overwhelmed

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Help! Completely Overwhelmed
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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 11:15am

Hi Everyone,


I'm new to this board.

 

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:34pm

Hi, and welcome!


We are here so share, vent, yell, whatever!

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:23pm

Well, welcome!! We do, indeed, share stories, etc., here--and hold each other's hands as we whack our heads into the various walls involved ;}.

Meds--honestly, if his personality changes dramatically, I'd try for a different med. Finding the "right" one is hard (often even harder for Aspergers kids, of course). For my kid, it's more like the meds reveal the child who is there than that they change him, if that makes sense? Waking up at 2 am--that sounds like it should be WAY off from when the meds would still be affecting his sleep--for us, and, I think, most others, it's generally a problem falling asleep in the first place. I wouldn't worry much about that one if it's a once-off; he's also growing & the sleep patterns do change as they age (or, rather, my kids's have!).

Whiny/irritable/angry: They've told you about when the meds wear off? One of the side effects many kids have--and can go away after awhile--is that they are much more...emotionally fragile when the meds wear off. For my kid, crying over nothing & being angry have both happened. It helped him when we talked about why he was feeling that bad (once us parents clued, of course)--pretty clearly he didn't know why this thing was getting him so emotional either! Anyhow, for us, that pretty much lasted about a month when he first started, and then a couple weeks after the first med change...where now we don't even notice it on dose increase, generally. If you're seeing changes at other times, that's different--could be "too much" meds (Concerta 18's really low, though); could go away in a week or two when the kid is more used to the meds, etc.

I know it's really hard in the beginning, but what I found was the feeling of having to worry about so much more did get better. It comes back whenever we have to switch meds/figure out if the dose needs to be increased, of course, but in between, we get on with a far more normal life than if we had to work with the ADHD *all* the time instead of just when the meds wear off!

Downs' on top of Aspergers with ADHD? Yeah, you are waaaaay beyond busy, there. {{{{hugs}}}} to you--I can understand why you feel overwhelmed--one day at a time & DO find some time for you, somewhere, even if it's just a book & some chocolate or whatever.

Megan
Megan
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Registered: 03-09-2009
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:12pm

My DS has a dx of ADHD but has some "Aspie" behaviours. We also had issues with Concerta (36 mg for him at age 10). We didn't think that the 18 mg would be enough and there was nothing in between, so we tried 20 mg of Ritalin SR. It lasts for 6 hours instead of 12, but we have the option of giving him two a day, six hours or more apart. It's working much better than the 36 mg of Concerta.

It takes a lot of trial and error to find what med (and what dosage of that med) will work for one's child. Don't give up!

BTW, my DS is scheduled for an ADOS assessment so that the pediatrician can see how to help him (likely with a referral). My DS also has obsessive interests and talks the ears off everyone by talking constantly about them. It has really alienated him from his peers (in addition to driving everyone at home bonkers LOL). We're hoping that we can help him understand and learn how to converse in a socially acceptable way.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 11:20am
Welcome to the board - we're so glad to have you! This is a great group and I know you'll find lots of love and support here. (HUGS)

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