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Hi! I'm new here too
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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 11:43am

My 4 1/2 year old has behavioral issues, but he has not yet been diagnosed with anything in particular.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-12-2010 - 9:23am

The can-focus-on-electronics but nothing else is certainly classic ADHD ;}. Mine could also do legos & train tracks...oh, and he could listen to a book if he was cuddled up.

In addition to following up with the ADHD diagnosis possibilities, I'd actually recommend finding out about getting an evaluation from your local school system. Mine got evaluated, and got a bunch of gross & fine motor therapy (and social skills) that really did help. The "flailing around" stuff might be ADHD, but it could also be a need for sensory stimulation, if that makes sense.

Oh, and it's well worth reading a good book on handling ADHD kids; there's a lot of how-to-parent tricks that work well on ADHDers AND other kids. It's...how do I say it, a different type of parenting style, in some ways. Lots of positive stuff, the negative tends to be rather ineffective--reward charts rather than punishments. Lists/charts of what they are to do, very broken down (not "get dressed, brush teeth", but "take off PJs, put in hamper, put on pants, put on shirt, etc., etc."--with pictures at that age, I'd think). Mine can follow a routine better than anything else.

Megan
Megan
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Registered: 03-25-2008
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 12:15pm

This sounds a lot like our son at that age. You can get help, so don't let the pediatrician stop you. We were getting help for our son at age three (not medication or a diagnosis, but got referred to a child psychologist initially). Our son was diagnosed officially when he was almost five, after we found that ADHD medication worked wonders. Kaiser was quite reluctant to make the diagnosis (contrary to all the media reports of overdiagnosis) and for a couple years only said he had "strong indicators" of it (yeah, like a neon sign, looking back).

You want to get in with a psychiatrist or neuropsychologist who can do an evaluation and make a diagnosis. A pediatrician isn't really qualified, unless they have special training in dealing with ADHD. Most will not fit this description.

When you're dealing with potential ADHD at a young age, you really have to be your child's best advocate. Trust your gut instinct as a parent that something isn't quite right and insist on further help. Our first step in the process was seeing a child psychologist for behavioral tips. Those didn't work, so on to a behavioral therapist. Same results and we hit a road block until our son was kicked out of preschool. Then we got the magic ticket in with the psychiatrist, who really made the biggest difference in our son's life. Looking back, I really wished I had pushed harder to meet with the psychiatrist before things got so bad.

Good luck to you!
Michelle