Hi, new here, need some advice...Sorry so long

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Hi, new here, need some advice...Sorry so long
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Tue, 10-19-2010 - 2:57pm

Hi, I'm new here, and am looking for some advice. My ten year old son was diagnosed with ADHD at 7 years old. He is on 10mg Adderol daily. A little background info....He was diagnosed with ADHD at 7years old, I was VERY resistant to medication, but eventually gave in when nothing else seemed to work for us. He is an honor roll student, and extremely athletic. His sport of choice is ice hockey, and is an A level goaltender. He also loves running, and baseball. I am so proud of him all the time. But our problem is , he is so full of nasty attitude at us. I have a 21 month old son (whom he adores, and has all the patience in the world with, the baby is probably the only one of us he is even nice to). Everyone I meet who knows my son compliments me on how well behaved and polite he is, and how he gives 100% evvort to everything he is doing. but then when he is home with us he is just plain nasty, everything is an argument, or him freaking out about nothing. We can't even ask him if he wants milk or water with dinner without getting a nasty tone of voice, or comment from him. Mornings are particularly HORRIBLE. He wants to blame it on his pill hasn't had time to work yet, I tell him that's not an excuse to be a jerk to everyone. He has an hour and a half before he gets on the bus, and 99% of the time he has no time to even eat, because getting dressed even has been an hour long argument, and brushing his teeth has been another argument, same with shoes, jacket, backpack. I prepare everything the night before with him, clothes, backpack packed, lunch packed etc... To minimize problems, but seemingly new problems arise while he sleeps (clothes are no longer what he wants to wear, no longer wants a ham sandwich, make me a turkey etc...)

I want to ground him for his behavior in the mornings, but usually when he gets home from school, his attitude has either changed, and for the most part he is okay. Or it has stayed the same and he is now grounded. (Grounded in my house is only for a short period of time an hour or so, he sits on his bed facing the wall...No TV, video game, books, NOTHING. It equals out to torture for him).

So do I ground him after school for his behavior in the mornings, when he barely even remembers the attitude he threw around all morning. Or do I wait until he screws up again after school, and then ground him....?

I appreciate any advice and thanks for reading my mini novel.

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 10:02pm

My son hasn't been formally diagnosed yet, but he certainly seems similar to yours.

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Registered: 11-13-2008

That's good to hear!

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Registered: 04-19-2008
They can make kids lose their appetite, but not all kids. If he is having BP issues, I would change meds altogether.

It also sounds like he just needs redirection in his behavior, and it seems to be working.
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Registered: 06-24-2003

I dunno, his doctor is convinced they make kids lose their appetite, leading to weight loss. There is also a question in his blood pressure, some of the meds he had tried made it way high, and his is already a tiny bit on the high side to begin with, it always has been.

But, yesterday afternoon and into the evening seemed to go very well for him. UNTIL it was time for shower, and preperations for the next morning. He got real mouthy and argumentative, so he had to take his shower then go right to bed. I took care of the clothes, lunch etc... He was not happy about it, in fact the very last thing he said to me was "I better not look like a dork tomorrow Mom." It really made me want to take out all of his dress clothes including tie and sweater lol.

This morning was perfect!!!! I reminded him about 3 strikes, he said he remembered, and went about his business. He was ready for school 20 minutes early!!!!! YAY!!!!

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 12:41pm
Stimulant meds have nothing to do with weight, they are dosed by symptoms.
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Thank you for your response. I *might* try getting him up earlier, I say might because that would require me getting up earlier too:smileywink: I'm not exactly a morning person.

Anyway I spoke with him when I got him from the bus, and he agreed to go back on the 3 strikes rules.

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Registered: 04-19-2008

Hi, and welcome

Maybe giving him his med earlier? I used to wake DD up about 30 minutes early, give the pill, and let her go back to sleep. It worked well for us, and others have done it also. There is also the possibility of adding another med, a 24 hour into the mix, but if the Adderall is working, i would leave it alone.

Also, I do not