Hi there - newbie here (son w/ tics & likely adhd)

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Hi there - newbie here (son w/ tics & likely adhd)
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Tue, 08-21-2012 - 8:32am

Hi,

I just want to introduce myself - I'm Mary and am beginning to think our 7 yr old son may have adhd. We don't have a diagnosis yet, but my husband and I recently watched a PBS program (ADHD and Mastering It) and thought "OMG, that's Luke." He already has been experiencing tics for ~1.5 yr now, and from what I've read so far, adhd can go along w/ it. Plus, last year in school I started to hear from a teacher about him listening and remembering to do tasks. He's a very smart kid (sorry, so cliche, "My kid is so great" - so unbiased am I? :smileyhappy: ), but he is. He has his grandfather's engineer mind already (my husband was fantastic at math and tested to be an engineer too but decided not to follow the same track) - in 1st grade my son could add and subtract double digit numbers in his head and do some multiplication. Yet, his teacher gave him a 2 out of 4 in math. Though I had trouble w/ this teacher (she was scrambled herself - had some other kid's name and grade in my son's progress report and 2 other kids on our street who were in the same class kept trading papers, as she kept putting the wrong kids' papers in folders - maybe she had adhd too, who knows), it doesn't help my son to think there isn't some truth in her concerns. I know he is impulsive, can become distracted, and is forgetful.

Anywho, I'm hoping after my daughter finishes her vision/auditory processing therapy program soon, we can switch our focus to talking to a therapist who has experience working w/ adhd kids and parents who are scratching their heads (or pulling at their hair at times). Funnily enough, we learned that it tends to be genetic and there's a 40% chance an adhd child has a parent that has it too (yay us - but my husband and I are starting to see things in ourselves and think "oh, yep"). A new shcool year is about to begin, and I feel myself cringing a bit. I keep this running mantra in my head "please be a good year, please be a good year". So, I'm happy I tripped across this board. I may be popping in to ask questions or just share a frustration. Thanks ahead of time :smileyhappy:

Mary

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Hi!  My younger daughter also had tics and eventually was diagnosed with Tourette Syndrome. She also was diagnosed with ADHD, as she fit the criteria for it, and tested for it. She also had mild "OCD." And yes - just like your son Luke, she was very smart (yes, even when we take our bias out... :-)  I understand!)

I did learn the hard way that diagnoses like "ADHD" are labels for sets of symptoms and really don't give us an understanding of the cause of those symptoms, nor does it give a road map for how best to remedy them. We did give medication for it and at first we thought "OH WOW WOW WOW! This is GREAT!" But, sadly, it did more harm :-(  Sigh.  Then the doctor said, well her attentional difficulties were really a part of a more severe psychiatric diagnosis, or maybe even some of it was absence seizures, but an EEG was negative, which didn't rule seizures out, but made it less likely. But another possibility which was not looked into for years was the possibility that the ADHD symptoms were due to sleep issues.

I know the type of difficult road you are embarking on.

btw - That daughter is starting today in graduate school to work on a Master's degree in Dietetics/Nutrition!


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Hi Mary, it's nice to "meet" you :smileyhappy: I'm Melissa, my oldest son is 14 and diagnosed with ADHD, inattentive, ODD, and some anxiety issues. He also has a facial tic that we've been working on. My son is very smart also, but like you, doesn't prevent me from seeing that he has trouble in other areas also. One of my other boys has an engineering mind like Luke, and while he's not ADHD, did struggle a bit in school until his maturity level was able to catch up with his brain.

It's good that you are aware that he could have some issues, that way you can stay on top of it before it becomes harder to manage. Hopefully with a more organized teacher he'll have a much better year. i look forward to getting to know you better!

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Thank you both for the welcome and reassurance. Naomi, that is great about your daughter and inspiring! Melissa, my son I think has some anxiety too - I didn't think of that. I'm just beginning to look things up, but I'm hoping that all the kids will be fantastic success stories!

Mary