Hyperverbal!

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Hyperverbal!
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Sun, 12-13-2009 - 12:07pm

I'm having an issues with my DS, and it's an issue that has been going on since he could talk. My DS talks or vocalizes CONSTANTLY. Combined with that is some Aspie-ness in that what he wants to talk about is one of his few interests. Worse yet is that his interests tend to be obscure or "geeky" (right now he's into World of Warcraft, everything to do with 9/11, and how much he hates the male tween/teen heartthrobs). It's driving us nuts, and when he was in school (we are homeschooling this year), it drove his classmates nuts and he had no friends.

We've tried all approaches that we can think of, such as the gentle reminders to change the subject or lower his voice (he can also be loud), the rational approach where we explain how others perceive his chatter, and the harsh/punitive approach where we ask him to stop and if he doesn't, then we send him to his room.

The rational and harsh/punitive approaches just seem to be eating away at his self-esteem (and turning him into an angry kid), and the gentle approach is simply ignored by him. We don't know what to do.

It was a little better (but not hugely better) when he was on a higher dose of Ritalin, but he'd also lost his appetite and was verging on having an unhealthy weight, so we went to a lower dose.

Is there anyone who's child has this same behaviour and has found a solution? We see the pediatrician tomorrow and I'd love to be able to ask her to try something specific.

Oh, and FWIW, he's been assessed multiple times (and recently) for ASD and it has been ruled out.

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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 7:32pm

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LOL, yup, three times. Each time it was "no, just ADHD with *quirks*". I lurk at the PDD-NOS/Asperger's board, and while he'd definitely get along with most of the kids WRT *special interests*, I do see why they'd not think that my DS is an Aspie.

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Ditto for my DS.

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Yeah, to some degree it's the same thing for my DS. He loves humour though, and will tough out a novel if it's funny (such as Diary of a Wimpy Kid). But yeah, most of his reading is done on Wikipedia, researching his interest du jour. He also has a hard time with hidden meaning and metaphors.

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He doesn't have sensory issues WRT clothing, but he has a really sensitive mouth and has noise sensitivities. For instance, he won't drink pop as he says the carbonation hurts his mouth, and brushing his teeth is anywhere from uncomfortable to painful (though it's still required).

As for noise, he's gotten better, but there was a time when loud noises just freaked him totally out. He missed one whole week of school because it was Fire Prevention Week and they'd announced that there would be fire drills during the week. My normally good as gold, quiet and polite (at school, anyway LOL) kid was hysterical and I couldn't get him out the door to take him to school.

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He prefers a schedule, but is flexible enough (especially with a reminder or warning of a change of plans). A lot of Aspie kids who have their schedule interrupted will rage, or exhibit intense anxiety, or will start hardcore stimming in response. My DS has nowhere near that response, although he doesn't like changes just sprung on him, and if he has a 5 minute heads up of an activity change, he's much more cooperative.

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Big ditto there!

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He's been scheduled for an ADOS test which I believe is usually used to assess social communication in those who have ASD, so hopefully the results will lead to good things for him.

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I thank you for them. :)

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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 7:52pm

Yes - I made mistakes and I didn't think it was necessary for you to copy and paste every sentence I wrote - I know what I wrote.


Okay - whatever you say


I do wish you good luck with your child.

Denise

Denise

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 8:27pm

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It made it easier to respond to your post. No offense meant.

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 1:51pm

Got it - no problem - okay so we will put this baby bed.


Take care - I hope you get answers and help.

Denise

Denise

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 3:03pm

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Thanks!

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