I don't know what to do...

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Registered: 12-01-2009
I don't know what to do...
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Tue, 12-01-2009 - 12:36pm

My 8yr old daughter is ADD and I don't know how to handle the fits she has. Our doctor told me for every fit take away one privilege for the day and start new every day. I've been doing this for 2 mo and it doesn't seem to be helping. Lately her fits have escalated into me screaming

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Wed, 12-02-2009 - 9:36am
That is very helpful, thank you. I will call them this week and ask for a referral.
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Wed, 12-02-2009 - 10:51am

Hi!


I completely agree with seeing a specialist. If in fact it is an anxiety issue, there are meds out there. My son has social anxiety and about 7 months ago, we made the decision

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Christine

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Wed, 12-02-2009 - 11:43am

Thanks for the info on Zoloft. I should check into that too.

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Wed, 12-02-2009 - 1:55pm

There are definitely medication options if she has anxiety. Our son has been on anti-anxiety meds for OCD since he was four. He takes Celexa and it's worked great for him. I agree with the others -- definitely get in with a specialist who has in-depth knowledge of ADHD and other disorders.

Michelle

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Wed, 12-02-2009 - 2:06pm

I completely agree with the get-a-thorough-diagnosis on this one.

And, I'll echo the people who're saying that positive discipline works better for ADHD kids--really, truly. Taking stuff away...well, it works for my kid NOW, but really, it's the positive discipline that works for the real problems, long-term, and at age 8, basically only that. Is she getting into such a stressed state that she can't deal with anything at all? What triggers her to go there?

I'd also recommend working on one behavior at a time, if you can--so set up some kind of reward chart--stickers, coin jar, tickets, whatever--with minor rewards for doing things like getting out of bed, then getting dressed, eating breakfast, etc., if that's the issue. Or if it's random fits, a reward for each hour she doesn't have one. Or whatever she can reasonably succeed on, if that makes sense?

She also sounds a lot like she needs to be taught how to calm herself down...we did that by teaching deep breaths, but stuff like yoga can help, that kind of thing. Then as they get older, you teach them how to self-calm when they're frusterated because some idiot at school is bullying them...

Megan
Megan
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Wed, 12-02-2009 - 9:02pm

The only thing I know for sure that triggers her is her morning routine. Otherwise its random. Of course anything her brother does is a trigger and I think a little jealousy of the baby. I will deifinately try positive discipline rather than taking things away, it sounds like it will work better. I never thought of a sticker chart for this. I have some poster board so I will make a chart tomorrow! Thanks for the awesome advise!

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Wed, 12-02-2009 - 9:49pm

I want to add -- I just did a research paper for a college course I am taking on stress and kids and yoga and I'm signing my son up for Kid Yoga next week; "They" say the benefits are HUGE and are fab for ADHD, Autism, anxiety children who really need to find a way to relax, calm themselves and de-stress.


I've come to realize lately that often times anxiety is the root of

Kathy

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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 1:05pm
This is all very helpful information, thank you. I will find out about the psych and neuro psych. The closest childrens hospital is a couple hours away but if thats what it takes for her to feel "normal" and that we like/love her as much as her siblings then it is totally worth the drive!
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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 3:44pm
Even though I didn't actually make the sticker chart, I implemented the idea this morning. And it worked great!! We had a perfect morning with no crying or yelling. Perfect!
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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 6:13pm

I agree with CL - the meds could be working against her and you need a full eval.


You def have an issue.

Denise